Sony’s new handheld gaming console, the much-rumored PSP Go, has leaked ahead of its official E3 2009 launch. The PSP Go will have 16GB of flash memory, Bluetooth and a memory card slot.
• 3.8-inch display (resolution is undisclosed)
• 43 percent lighter than the PSP-3000
• 16GB of Flash storage
• Bluetooth built-in; supports handset tethering and BT headsets
• No UMD drive
• Memory Stick Micro slot
• New Gran Turismo, Little Big Planet and new Metal Gear Solid (!) on the way
• Full PlayStation Network support (movie and TV rentals / purchases)
• Integration with PlayStation 3 (works the same as the PSP-3000 does)
• Sony views each of its products as “10-year lifecycle products,” so the PSP “needs to live on.”
One of the many differences between the sexuality of men and women is that men tend to enjoy morning sex, while women mostly prefer to keep bedroom activity reserved for nighttime. This probably has a lot to do with what is referred to as nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT), which causes a man without erectile dysfunction to have three to five erections as he sleeps. NPT is more commonly referred to as “morning wood” or “morning glory.” Whatever you call it, waking up with an erection is as good a reason as any to initiate a little early action. Unfortunately, your girl may not be in the mood the minute she opens her eyes, but if you approach it properly she will very quickly be just as into morning sex as you are.
Prepare the night beforeIn order to avoid having to get out of bed in the morning before initiating your early lovin’ you should do some preparation the night before. Keep some breath mints near the bed so you can quickly take care of your dragon breath before things start to get sexy. Also, be sure to go to the bathroom before you go to sleep to prevent having to get up to take a leak as soon as you wake up. Don’t forget to have a condom ready to go within arm’s reach too.
Set your internal alarm
It’s important to wake up early enough to get a little action in before either of you are due at work. So, set your internal alarm clock to wake you up with enough time to enjoy a little morning make-out time to start your day. It’s best if you can wake up before her so you can rouse her into consciousness with your smooth moves. Remember, you might be ready to go, but it could take a while for her to get warmed up, so factor this in when you’re figuring out how much time you will need for your morning sex.
Gently wake herYour woman most likely does not want to be greeted immediately by your erect penis waving in her face, so take it easy. Touch her softly and slowly. Give her little kisses all over her face and body. Let your fingers play with her hair. This sensual approach will ensure that she wakes up in a positive, loving mood and makes it much more likely that she’ll take pleasure in morning sex. If you need more tips for waking a sleeping woman, check out our piece on How To Seduce A Sleeping Woman.
Make her feel sexyYour girl may not feel very sexy when she first wakes up, so to get her in the mood be sure to tell her how beautiful she is -- even if she’s a bit of a mess. Ignore the disheveled hair, the pillow creases on her face and her less-than-pleasant morning breath, and tell her how badly you want her. If you find it difficult to keep a straight face while telling her how hot she is first thing in the morning, try using a position that doesn’t put you face to face. Spooning her from behind is romantic and sensual, while it also conveniently allows you to avoid the misery of morning breath.
Start your day with a bang
Getting busy in the morning can be an excellent start to your day. It gets the feel-good hormones pumping and puts a smile on your face, making it much easier to put up with whatever hassles your day brings. Like anything, having morning sex every single day will get old after a while, especially for your girlfriend who typically does not peak sexually in the morning hours like you do, so be sure to mix it up and get busy at other times of the day too.
And there you have it; some easy ways to keep her satisfied and get a little satisfaction of your own at the same time. If you want her to be addicted to you, use your imagination to really make her go crazy.
Check out this charm that my homie got as a gift from his girl. To be honest, I think it’s pretty dope and when I asked him what it said around the edges, he replied, “My girl told me that it translates into, ‘ You change. We change’”. After hearing that I had the chills, patted him on the back and said, “That’s dope! Just don’t f*ck up homie ’cause if you do you then you already know what’s coming…..”
Now I know most of you dudes are going to skim through this and think "Man, I know all this stuff!" But that can't be the case if you clicked into this link. So sit back, read slowly, and give her the time of her life!
Women really do wish men could read their minds, as it would make their lives so much easier. If only you could always touch the right spot at the right time with the right pressure... impossible, right? Not entirely.
With a little bit of practice and some reading, you can probably pull it off not just once, not twice, but every time you try. Well, almost every time. Read on and learn how to avoid the little mistakes that all add up.
1- Get it wetIf you and your girl are getting hot and bothered, and you want to do anything to her vagina, just make sure that when you touch it, it is with something wet. Always.
Apply your (or even her) saliva to two fingers and gently slide them on the outside of the entrance to her vagina or spit into your hand and cover the end of your penis. Or both. Yes, she might be going crazy for you, but the wetness may not have reached the outside yet. Whatever you do, don't ever do it dry. Vaginas can be complex, multi-layered things!
Putting anything dry into a woman -- fingers, your penis, toys -- means she has to wriggle around to get her outside lips slippery. Even if this does only take 30 seconds, those 30 seconds of dry discomfort take her mind off how good everything else feels. It is a turn-on for her to feel "wet at first touch" and it can speed up the warm-up process.
2- Don't bypass her neck or ears
The feeling she gets when you kiss, nuzzle or lick her neck is likely 10 times as good as what you feel when she does the same to you. Her neck is one of the fastest ways to turn her on with the least effort. Be gentle with a moist tongue and soft lips, and you will have her moaning into your ear in no time. The front of her neck near her jugular is the most sensitive, but all over is good.
Ears are also a highly erogenous area, but there is a technique to giving good ear loving. Some light breathing, nibbling and tongue action are all interesting and evocative sensations, whereas talking, loud "mwaack" kisses and slobbery licks are all definite no-nos. The trick to this is alternation; don't keep doing the same thing all the time. Instead, go from mouth to neck to ear to neck to breast, and so on.
3- Never thank her for fellatio or sexThis makes her feel like a hooker, so unless she is a hooker (or )role playing!, refrain from thanking her. Show your appreciation in any other way you like, though, because she wants to know that she did a good job and you loved it. A thank you can come in many appropriate forms: "That was an excellent lick" or "You give the best head!" will suffice. If you really appreciated it, a foot massage and dinner would be nice... just kidding.
4- Don't orgasm too soonA woman does expect a man to be able to hold onto his orgasms long enough for her to get off. There is nothing more frustrating than premature ejaculation problems, and nothing has the potential to kill a relationship faster than lack of sexual satisfaction for either partner. If this is your problem, try to sort it out -- go to a clinic, see a specialist, consult a sex therapist -- whatever you do, don't let it go on too long. If you never got to have an orgasm, would you want to have sex?
Practice masturbating differently -- get yourself nearly there, and then stop. Repeat. Practice until you get it right. If this doesn't help and you suspect it is a medical problem, seek help.
5- Don't take too long eitherYes, yes I know, this is a sign that you're da man, right? A man who can keep going and going forever, taking his woman into the realms of ecstasy 10 times...
I have news for you: 10 is pushing it. One is normally enough, two is good, three is a bonus. By then, she's spent, just like you, after you ejaculate once.
Women don't dream of the man who can hold off orgasm all night long; they dream of the man who comes as she comes the first, second or third time. After that, it's like, "boooring, get off me!" She won't want to stop because obviously you're not done, but after all her fun is over and there isn't much hope for more, give it up already! If you are desensitized, give it a rest and come back for seconds later.
6- There is more to breasts than nipplesMost men think that the nipple is the best bit and aim straight for it. This is not necessarily true; the entire breast is an oft-neglected erogenous zone. While men are busy sucking, licking, stroking, and playing with the nipples (and unfortunately sometimes biting and twisting without prior permission), the rest is often forgotten.
There can be a sensuous buildup to touching the nipple, like foreplay for the breast. Start on the outsides and work your way in with a tongue or finger. Circling brings the attention to the nipple, so when you do finally touch it, it is a great pleasure. Anticipation is the key, so use it to your advantage.
7- Trimmed pubic hair is betterIf you enjoy receiving oral sex, trim your pubic hair. Lots of women won't say anything, and if they say they don't care when asked, they are probably being truthful -- only because they don't know what they're missing! Do it anyway. Trim it to about half an inch, and if you're really brave, try shaving your testicles.
This feels great for you and much better for her mouth; it is generally 20 times more enjoyable for everyone. Pubic hair is a real deterrent for a girl trying her best to lick your balls, and it can send her straight onto your penis if it gets too hairy down there. Surely you won't mind this, but there is no point in hastening the experience now is there?
8- With the right approach she'll do almost anythingA woman generally likes to feel in control, so when you suggest something out of the ordinary, she may react with suspicion. Who have you been talking to? Have you been sleeping with someone else to get these ideas? A defensive reaction to new ideas is a bad start. If you often encounter resistance, try a different tactic.
Magazine articles are a good way to educate her about options, especially if they were written by a woman. Find articles that have ordinary women talking about how good it was to have anal sex or have sex in a weird place -- whatever you want to do -- and get her to read it. She's probably left Cosmo wide open on the "Sex Tips for Men" page a few times, hoping you would read it and learn a few things, so why shouldn't you do the same?
Women's sex forums are also a good source. They give her time to read and absorb information without your opinion on the matter. Suggest it delicately, and then try to make her believe it was her idea in the first place.
No woman wants to be the one who won't play ball. Although there are things she may always say no to (anal sex and fisting perhaps), just remember it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind. Find the right method and you might just push her sexual experimentation button.
In the endIf you read this and thought, "What? Guys still don't know all this stuff?" then congratulations; you've come a long way, boy. Good luck and happy romping!
It is often assumed that women generally let themselves go once they're in a relationship. This is frequently true, but men are just as bad; women are just far more tolerant. But this doesn’t mean you don’t need to make an effort, because she does notice, and yes, she misses the body you had when you first met.
Your sexual attractiveness is very important, and as a relationship wears on, the laziness and complacency begins. If you think she will love you 'til the day you die no matter what you look like, think again. She might just want to trade you in for the newer model -- the model that makes an effort to ensure he looks good not only for himself, but for her. You expect her to make an effort with her appearance, don’t you? She doesn’t want a man who spends more time in front of the mirror than her, nor does she want a muscle man. She just wants you… with a couple of fix-ups.
Here you will find a quick list of what body blunders women find most offensive, and easy ways to improve bits of yourself without going overboard.
Man boobsThis is the area she most looks at when she perves at you naked. It is also probably one of her favorite places to rest her head, nibble nipples and caress lovingly. A man’s chest is a treasured place for women, so having a posh pair of man boobs covered in carpet is not a turn-on -- especially if your boobs are bigger than hers.
What you can do: You can transform your man boobs reasonably easily with a bit of focused attention, and then you get to call them pecs and show them off. Invest in some weights and get one of your fitter mates to show you how to use them properly; don’t hurt yourself by trying to be tougher than you really are. Rowing machines are a great all-round workout for the entire upper body and can work miracles in a reasonably short time span, though you will be working hard. If you have a really, really hairy front, you might want to consider trimming, waxing or laser hair removal. Some hair is generally considered manly and sexy, but if she can’t nibble your nipples without getting a floss, maybe you’re due for a trim.
Excessive pubic hairThe point here can be easily made like this: Do you like going down on a furry muff? You don’t, do you? And neither does she. Your largest manly appendage is smooth and hair-free, which means that it gets the most attention. But if you consider that having less hair in other places makes it much easier to lick, suck and fondle these other places, you may realize you are missing out. Pubic hair needs to be trimmed no matter what; a great way to spoil a perfectly good bl*w job is for her to get a hair stuck in her throat.
What you can do: Get rid of the offending pubes. This does not mean you have to get rid of all hair -- if the thought of a wax on your privates makes you cringe, a hefty trim will suffice. Though in saying that, smooth balls are deliciously smooth and sexy to lick, so try shaving. Let her lick them, and see what you think. You might feel a bit bald for a while, but you’ll get used to it. And no, it doesn’t make her think you look 10 years old.
If you’re a bit puny or saggy, it can impact how manly you appear. If your shoulders and arms are lacking in definition or shape, she may look at you and wish you looked a bit stronger -- a bit more like you could save her if armed bandits came to kidnap her. Our primal instincts are still raging on as ever, so yes, looking a bit tougher than you really are is always a bonus when it comes to the ladies.
What you can do: If your shoulders slope downward, you can dress them up by wearing clothes that make you look broader. Jackets with padding, horizontal stripes and nothing that tapers in at the waist are suitable options. Since your shoulders are the last place on the body to accumulate fat, they are in fact one of the easiest places to build visible muscle. See your local gym, an online guide or a fit friend for advice. Get those dusty old weights out and start using them!
Hairy backBeautiful, smooth backs are definite lady-pleasers -- a nice back will get you places a sparkling personality and a full head of hair won’t. To all you men out there who have hairy backs, it’s not your fault that you have hairy genes, but truth be told, you would probably be getting more attention without the hair. Certainly, some women do love hairy backs (“very manly”), but on a whole, hairy backs are a big reason why lots of men don’t get laid (“No way, he’s got a hairy back”).
What you can do: If you have the cash, go to a laser hair-removal clinic and invest in a lifetime of smoothness. Waxing is a suitable alternative, but you must maintain it. Waxing lasts from four to six weeks, and it isn’t expensive. Don’t shave it, as it will grow back quickly and prickly -- not nice to touch. To tone your back, get on the rowing machine or do push-ups.
Beer bellyYour stomach is basically the whole front of you, and this is what she predominantly sees when she looks at you. If you have a pot belly, get rid of it. Nobody likes a saggy, protruding stomach, and since this is where men tend to put on weight first (especially if you enjoy beer regularly), it is the main source of the excess weight. You don’t need abs of steel, but you do need to be tucked in. You will notice her squeals of delight and her increased interest in touching the new and improved you when the results of your effort become apparent.
What you can do: Crunches, of course! Also do the rowing machine, push-ups or maybe you could just eat less. That’s what women do; it seems to work. If you don’t know how to do crunches properly, ask somebody; you can easily save yourself time and effort by doing them properly. Oh, and maybe don’t drink so much beer.
Gross teethBad teeth will lose you more sex than you’ll ever know. Our smiles are our gifts to the world, and how we show pleasure. If your way of showing pleasure is to bare your stained, broken/missing/buck fangs to the world, perhaps you’re in need of some dental work. Bad teeth look like they smell, and you don’t want to kiss something that looks like it smells. Bad teeth drastically change your appearance -- just think how you cringe when someone who looks OK suddenly reveals a terrible mouthful. It ain’t pretty.
What you can do: First off, get them cleaned by the dentist. A professional clean not only makes them feel lovely and smooth, but it gets rid of any gunk you have stuck to them. Then, get a home whitening kit. They don’t cost that much, especially if you compare it to a lifetime of paying for sex. Make sure that your mouth-care routine is leaving your breath fresh, and your teeth clean. If you have missing teeth, for goodness sakes, get them fixed. You might think it’s funny, but a full smile is an attractive smile. If you have a real gobful of sharks’ teeth, it’s best to see a cosmetic dentist for some help. Consider it an investment in your sex life.
TipsIf you don’t happen to look your best, a good way to placate the missus is to make sure that you are encouraging her when she isn’t looking her best. Making a woman feel attractive when they aren’t feeling particularly sexy is certainly a challenge, but if you are kind to her in her time of need, she will be kind to you until you get back on your feet.
If having a firmer physique is what you want, try doing regular exercise with your partner. It is more fun and far easier than doing it on your own.
Self-improvementBeing super-duper is hard work. Being attractive can be hard work for some people, but on the whole a little bit of effort goes a long way for most of us. Knowing what your problem areas are is a good start, so figure out what you think needs improving and hop to. Your lover might insist she loves you just the way you are -- and she does -- but this doesn’t mean you can’t up the ante a little. Just remember: Whatever you do, do it just as much for yourself as for her. It won’t go unnoticed - PrettyBOY save
In a world of supersize cars, jobs, meals, and just about everything else, it's hard to stop thinking about whether bigger is actually better for everything. Men are competitive when it comes to their ability to satisfy women, and unfortunately after years of locker-room comparisons, the go-to source of pride or shame is the size of that with which they're working. So, does penis size really matter? Well, yes, but you'll be shocked to find out for whom it really matters.
Striving to be the best is par for the course; while your date-night antics don't necessarily qualify as a sport, and you won't be in the running for an Olympic medal this year, peak performance is always on your mind, especially when it comes to sex. As we all know, it takes more than height to make a great basketball player, and more than biceps to make a standout football star. The same can be said for savvy lovers who have better sex -- physical equipment isn't everything when it comes to knocking it out of the park, and women aren't shy about singing the praise of skill over size.
Unfortunately, not all guys seem to believe those women so we're going to rely on science to reassure you that the size of the package isn't more important than the method of delivery.
It's all in your headOK, it's time for some scientific facts and figures to put to rest some of the outlandish claims and myths circulating about whether or not penis size matters and what's normal for the vast majority of men out there. A comprehensive worldwide study of more than 40 independent penis size research projects, undertaken since 1942, has come up with a general penis size guideline. With over 11,000 participants, the survey puts the average erect size of the adult penis between 5.5 inches and 6.2 inches in length and 4.7 inches and 5.1 inches in girth.
If the science doesn't do it for you, and you're still wondering "does penis size matter," then the study also took a look at perceptions of size and asked more than 50,000 heterosexual men and women how they rated their own size or the size of their partner. They found that 85% of women were satisfied with their partner's penile size, but only 55% of men were satisfied. Notice anything? The women were much more forgiving and didn't feel like they were dealing with inferior goods if they weren't being bludgeoned with porn-star worthy penises. Chances are that women within measuring distance usually have better things on their minds than finding a ruler, and if they don't, penis size probably shouldn't be your first concern.
What she's thinking
Do you think you could accurately identify what 5.0 inches looks like within ¼ inch? Yeah, we didn't think so. And guess what, most women couldn't do it either. The variances in the middle ranges of penis sizes only offer up about ¾ of an inch from the low-end to the high-end of the scale, including racial variances that have seeped into popular culture, but remain largely unsubstantiated in the scientific community. So, unless you are the proud owner of a significantly smaller (under 4.0 inches erect) or significantly larger (over 7.5 inches), your partner's ability to identify your exact size and judge you on it are pretty slim.
Every penis is different and just like women's breasts, each has its own set of characteristics and there isn't much consensus on what makes an ideal member. Even so, women seem to be in agreement on a few things in this department: If given the choice between larger-than-average size with below-average skills and average size with above-average skills, there is no contest, skill beats size every time. However, if it makes you feel better, keep her perspective in mind. When you look down and catch a glimpse of yourself, the vantage point won't be as kind as when she's seeing it up close and personal. If you've ever employed your fingers to help a woman with an itch, you'll know that they are much smaller than a penis and that she seems to like them just fine.
Logistical notes on penis size
Now that you have a handle on your size and what she thinks of it, it's time to put her under the microscope. The vagina is a pretty adaptable thing and can comfortably accommodate both large and small penises with the same relative degree of comfort. Translation: There's no physiological reason for a large penis being inherently preferred over a more modest one. In fact, the vagina of a woman who hasn't had a child is only 3.0 inches long when she's not sexually excited, and even when she's aroused the average increase in size is only about another inch.
Even if you happened to be packing an impressively long-barreled pistol, anything over the average is going to waste anyway -- there wouldn't be anywhere for those inches to go. Couple that with the fact that the first third of her vagina (the third closest to the opening) is the area that houses all of the nerve endings and is, therefore, the only area that actually registers sensation. The end result: According to a recent survey, 90% of women prefer a wide penis to a long one because increases in length do little to enhance her physical pleasure.
Get in the gameWorrying about your penis size or lamenting your lack of it won't do you much good in the long run, if anything it will hurt you -- and your chances for better sex. Being self-conscious will put a kink in your confidence and will probably prevent your next sexy encounter from having any kink in it. While studies report higher numbers of sexual conquests for men with larger than average penis sizes, that statistic can be a bit misleading. Since it's doubtful that the women were aware of the size prior to getting into bed, it can be argued that the increased number of sexual partners was a result of confidence and comfort rather than size itself. Fortunately for you, confidence is a much easier thing to come by than a few extra inches.
Penile pressuresIf you are truly concerned with your ability to fulfill your woman, try to learn all you can about satisfying her all round, and learning tips, techniques and positions that can maximize what you've got. If that doesn't work, a quick trim of the hedges can give you an extra visual inch to impress her with -- not that you should really care about penis size that much in the first place.
Wow!! One word that simply can describe a number of shoes, and this is one of ‘em. I have to have these. I’m not a huge fan of rockin’ basketball type shoes as casual wear, but i could definitely do these. So far no word on release date or availability, we’ll keep you posted though.
It's Friday night and you're on the prowl (except you're not actually using the term "prowl" because it's kind of lame). You may have spent three hours perfecting your 'do so that it appears as though you rolled right out of bed and always look this effortlessly tousled, but the real issue is: Have you spent any time considering the vibes you definitely don't want to give off to members of the opposite sex? With the vast array of dating personae an ordinary guy can adopt on any given night, it can be tempting to transform into what you believe to be the ultimate version of yourself. This can be great when it means upping your chivalry factor just a tad and offering a cute girl the envy-inducing bar stool you snagged, but it can also very quickly veer off into "not so great" territory, and this should be avoided at all costs.
Your mother used to tell you that you could be anything you wanted to be when you grew up. We're not here to discourage that motivational thought process, but we are here to give you a few helpful hints on the male archetypes that most women will steer clear of so that you can steer clear of them as well. Battle of the sexes be damned -- let’s get on the same side! Here is a list of four guys she won’t date.
The BlackBerry business buffoonSome believe this type only exists in the world of Entourage, but rest assured, the "Ari Gold times 10" model is alive and well on the Wall Street scene. He can be spotted by his sleek suit (he was torn between Burberry and Dolce), trendy pink shirt and tie (the ladies love pink!), and the ever-present smartphone attached to his hand. This category comes along with a very important divide, however: those who actually are this type and those who just desperately try to be. This is distinguishable by whether the main reason for his BlackBerry is actually an insane amount of "urgent" work e-mail or simply just to check his fantasy baseball scores. Which is worse? We're not sure. Either way, the world gets it: You have a job and are at least mildly successful. There’s no need to shout it from the rooftops. Success and ambition are most attractive when they’re expressed subtly -- unless you're trying to attract gold-digging chicks. If so, carry on -- you’re now one of the four guys she won’t date.
The "I don't watch TV" guy
You think it makes you sound intellectual and unique. In fact, it makes you sound just a wee bit pompous with a slight undertone of dishonesty. Everyone watches TV. It's true that women don't want a guy who sits in front of the tube all day long with his hand down his pants a la Al Bundy, but we also don't want a snobby, Gucci-glasses-wearing "society boy" who makes us feel bad for reading Eat, Pray, Love. Intelligence is sexy, but it's even sexier when you can also spout off a few lines from The Office with us. That's what she said.
"Peacocking" playersSo you read The Game and watched VH1's The Pickup Artist. You convinced yourself that if those sad saps can snag a chick, well then, by god, so can you! However, you're forgetting one crucial element: we girls watched The Pickup Artist too. And many of us read The Game as well. Yes, your psychedelic shirt and top hat will make you stand out in a crowd, but it will also make most normal girls point and laugh. We may enjoy your tarot card readings or other interesting prop devices you use to start a convo, but it doesn't exactly make us want to jump your bones. Bottom line: Those "get-a-girl tutorials" make some good points, but most guys in ordinary meet-a-girl situations have no idea how to incorporate them naturally and end up going way over the top with it. The one lesson that always works: Confidence is sexy. Leave the top hat at home.
Nightclub boyYou may think these techno-dancing dudes went the way of the dodo a long time ago, but unfortunately they are alive and well. These may be the tight-shirt wearing guys you see picking up all the ladies on the dance floor with their electrifying moves. However, what looks like "picking up ladies" to the casual male observer is usually just sexual harassment to the gals. The rumors are true: girls like to dance. And going to a club to meet a girl isn't necessarily a bad idea, as long as you're mindful of certain variables. Do not attempt to snake your way into a group of dancing girls. They do not want you there. In this one very rare case, Dane Cook was right. They want to dance around their pocketbooks and shoes and screw guys for the night (not that kind of screwing). Do not attempt to show off "The Worm" or any other break-dancing moves you learned in college. Leave the glow sticks at home and approach a girl when she's ready for a drink at the bar. If she likes you, chances are she'll find your normal, "non-raving" dance skills endearing.
Just be you!It all boils down to one simple, cliched fact: Just be yourself. Try too hard to be something you're not (even if it works on Gossip Girl -- admit it, you watch the show sometimes) and the quality girls will see right through it. Of course, if you're looking for quantity, not quality, then we've just offered you a multitude of suggestions on how to achieve your weekend one-night-stand goal. You're welcome! - PrettyBOY.
Now for you guys who want to buy women’s perfume for that special lady, I have some tips for you to choose the right one. Don’t fret over how hard it could be because there are a few factors you can look into to determine the best perfume for her. Impress her with you thoughtfulness.
First off, women’s perfume comes in a boggling variety of fragrances. And each unique fragrance is suited to a particular type of woman. You need to first know how her body chemistry will react to the perfume you are buying. Apart from getting her to test out the fragrances and see how it reacts to her, another alternative is to match the perfume to her personality.
What kind personality does she have? Is she outgoing, reserved or feminine? Once you have grasped the essence of her personality, you can proceed to choose which perfume matches that attitude.
If your lady is a sophisticated and more mature woman, than choosing a heavier fragrance will suit them. For younger and sportier type of woman, choosing a woody fragrance will be good. For the feminine types, go with the floral fragrances.
Now, I know what you are thinking, what if I don’t know her that well enough to gauge her personality? Well don’t worry here is a safe-tip you can follow: Most women usually are already using a particular brand of perfume when they are out and about.
When you are out with her, take note of the fragrance she is using. Now, don’t get over zealous and start sniffing on her, but just be aware of it. You will find that as both of you go out more; she will rotate using different brands of perfume fragrance. Once you get a good idea of what she likes and uses, you can find a particular brand of perfume that has a similar scent.
I don’t know about you, but you’ll definitely stand out with buying the correct women’s perfume. She’ll see that you actually take note of her likes and dislikes. Well I hope the above tips and tricks will help you out on your next shopping trip.
In our society, it has become increasingly difficult to blow off a girl without people thinking you’re gay or weird -- even if she’s ugly. Fortunately, there are two ways to blow off a girl who is into you without anybody getting the wrong idea. The only problem is that one method is great and the other is terrible.
One night, I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and one of his friends from work when two girls started closing in on my boys. So I sat back and observed two very different styles of blowing off women.
My buddy subtly conveyed to one of the girls that he wasn’t interested in her, and before long, she got the hint and left with her dignity intact. On the other hand, his coworker went out of his way to be a jerk for no reason, and the girl left humiliated.
In case you didn’t have this figured out by your first semester in community college, nobody wants to hang with the guy who makes other people feel bad on purpose. The funny, slightly cocky guy? Sure, everybody likes that guy (especially the women). The guy who’s a jerk for no reason? Nope, everybody hates that guy. To make sure you fall into the first category -- and preserve your reputation for future pickups in the process -- here are some of the dos and don’ts of blowing her off.
Call her the wrong nameEverybody knows you know her name because she just told you five minutes ago -- or maybe you've even known each other for months. You didn’t just suddenly forget her name, and everybody knows it -- including her. It’s a stupid move that only speaks to your immaturity.
If there is one thing every girl wants more than a new pair of shoes, it’s respect. Aretha Franklin made an entire career out of searching for some R-E-S-P-E-C-T. When you suddenly quit paying her any attention and ignore her altogether, you are being extremely disrespectful.
“Mistakenly” send her nasty messages about herDon’t send her e-mails, text messages or voicemail messages that you “meant to send to your buddy Tommy” saying that she’s not your type or she has bad breath or other such nasty things. Not only will you hurt her feelings, but if she figures out you lied to her to get rid of her, she’ll be doubly upset. And keep in mind that this might backfire on you if she decides to seek revenge.
So how do you let her know you’re not digging her without being a jerk or embarrassing her? A combination of these dos should do the trick.
Ask her about her hot friendWomen love to give advice and they are jealous of each other. Use both of these well-known facts to your advantage and ask her what you should do to hook up with her hot friend. While she may initially want to latch onto you more, she will ultimately get the hint that you’re just not feeling her, and she’ll probably even find a way to blame it on her friend -- double bonus points for you.
Tell her you have a friend that is perfect for herAfter you’ve decided she’s not the one for you, use the information you’ve gathered on her to push her onto another guy. Point out how your buddy also cried when he saw the movie What Dreams May Come (1998), or any other common points they may have. Your buddy may be annoyed, but at least you’ll be rid of her.
Let her know how busy you are latelyAnytime she tries to contact you or you run into her, cut the conversation short. Bring up work, school or any other excuse to justify the fact that you have to run. Just be sure to point out that you love whatever it is that is taking up all your time and that you wouldn’t change a thing about your life.
Subtly highlight clashes of opinionPolitics, morals, values -- there are all kinds of hot-button issues you can subtly drop that will turn her off. If you know she’s a conservative, spout off something negative about the Bush administration and Fox News. If she has a kid, tell her you would never get involved with somebody who has children.
The not-so-direct approachIt sounds so simple, but spitting out the words “I’m just not that into you” can be extremely difficult. Get around this by letting her know that you’re just looking for a good time. Say something along the lines of how much you would love to hook up, but you respect her too much to make her just a ”friend with benefits.”
Reject the right wayBeing rejected is hard enough for anybody, and we’ve all been there at one time or another. But nothing is worse than having the person who rejected you make a fool of you as well. And keep in mind that letting her down easy is also a way to ensure that she doesn’t tell all the women in town that you’re a jerk; in other words, it’s a form of dating insurance.
You're the man -- you've finally worked up the nerve to ask out your potential Miss Right.
And there she is, right over there. It's now or never.
You take a step in her direction...
... and suddenly your pits are dripping like springtime in a rain forest, your heart is flip-flopping like a dying fish and your stomach is churning out enough acid to melt steel.
Chill, dude. You know you can't back down now.
You drag your feet to her side. From somewhere, you hear yourself asking those fateful words: "Would you like to go out sometime?"
She said, "No."
You trudge away, eyes on the floor, praying that no one has witnessed your public humiliation.
Unfortunately, despite all the shrill female demands in our society for "equal rights," the burden of asking for the date still sits squarely on the shoulders of the male. It still remains the guy's responsibility to risk getting his ego smashed if he wants to interact with the opposite sex.
And sexual rejection by a woman hurts -- it's almost impossible not to feel like a failure as a man when a woman turns you down for a date.
Why do women reject us?There can be a myriad of reasons, and not all of them have to be your fault (although some guys do tend to screw up in this department). Let's take a look at a few of them.
1- She's a bitchContemporary society is awash in rude, self-centered, man-hating Sex and the City clones who care only about themselves and have absolutely no conscience regarding men's feelings (or the feelings of other women, for that matter). Their attitude is: I have a million-dollar sexual price tag and any man is going to have to bow and scrape and pay dearly to gain access to it. These are the women who will try to emasculate you when you ask them out (if you don't have something they can sex-ploit), who get off on making men squirm, and who flagrantly abuse their sexual power.
2- You don't have the goods
Since money is the No. 1 factor a woman considers when choosing which men to date, if you don't have it or you don't look like you have it, then you're just not going to be on the top of her list. Until we refuse to pay for female attention, women are going to keep getting away with this kind of sex-tortion.
3- She's takenSince it's so easy for a woman to get sex (all she has to do is ask), she may simply be off the market. She may have a lover, a steady boyfriend or a husband. If these women are nice, they'll be upfront about their situation; if they're professional ball-busters, they'll manipulate you without mercy. So it's always best to do your homework before laying your ego on the line -- this way, you'll save yourself a lot of humiliation and embarrassment.
4- She's a playerIn other words, she's a serial flirter. A lot of married women or women with low self-esteem fall into this category -- they constantly need to be assured that they're still attractive to men, and so will ooze up to any guy who comes close just to get his reaction. They have no interest in dating you -- just in getting you turned on and then walking away. This is another flagrant abuse of female sexual power over men.
5- She's a psychoA lot of women out there have chosen "bad boys" or have, for psychological reasons, been involved in disastrous relationships and now blame men for all the problems of their own making. Some of them have dropped out of the dating pool altogether or have been repeatedly abandoned by men because of their chaotic behavior. They will reject you just because you're one of "them."
6- You have the wrong movesIf you "Hey, baby" her while snaking an unctuous arm around her shoulders, leer at her or keep calling her when she's clearly not interested, then you're just a creepy pest, and you'll have about as much of a chance of sleeping with her as a eunuch does.
7- It's bad timingIf a woman turns you down, you may have run head-on into some bizarre phase of her monthly cycle in which all men are bad, or she may be feeling unattractive, or any of a thousand other hormone-based reactions to the dating world. You could run into her a couple of days from now and get a complete green light.
8- She's been hurtAnytime you hear "I'm taking a break from dating" or "I need some time to get my life together" when you ask a woman out, it usually means that she's just come out of a bad relationship and is not yet interested in jumping into a new one. With this sort of damaged woman, it's best to aim for friendship or wait a while for her to straighten herself out before trying again.
9- You're a geekIn other words, you have no sexual confidence whatsoever and you melt like ice cream in July whenever she gets within 10 feet of you. You don't have to be James Bond, but if you can't even get a sentence out around her without stammering, then there's no way she's going to accept a date with you. You will be instantly relegated to "friend" status, if that.
10- She's just not attracted to youSimple as that. It happens and there's nothing you can do about it. It's best to just pick up the pieces and move on.
Accept rejection and move onSo there you are -- a sampling of reasons why a woman will reject you. Some things you can change (your own behavior) and some you can't (hers). Even though it's very hard not to take it personally, the best advice is just to chalk it up to experience, learn from it and keep swinging for the fences.
If you're a divorced man, by definition you have an ex-wife. You may or may not have children. Regardless, odds are that there is still some form of interaction between the two of you, even if only strictly for business (i.e., alimony). The interaction is almost guaranteed if you had children during your marriage. Certainly, you may harbor horrible feelings and sentiments for the woman that ruined your life, but it's time to grow up and reap the benefits of being civil and getting along with your ex-wife.
A cordial relationship will make for fewer awkward social meetings, make her more flexible when there is something to be negotiated or discussed, and make your future dating life easier, not to mention that getting along with your ex-wife will simply help keep you younger. Here are some suggestions on how to keep the relationship open -- without getting back together, of course.
Kill her with kindnessWe've all heard this phrase before, and for the most part it's true. Typically in a divorce, both parties have some problems that contributed to the demise of the marriage. You should take stock of your negative traits and then reverse the situation on your ex-wife. If you were always late showing up to events, be on time or even early. If you were great at hiding things, make an effort to be open, particularly with financially related matters.
It may be no fun, but if you can work toward squashing her doubts about you it will make things much easier going forward in terms of issues like alimony and child support. For instance, you do not need her auditing your finances every year and asking for each of your pay stubs. If you create a trusting atmosphere, with boundaries, you will find a great deal of flexibility, which greatly alleviates the already stressful situation.
Be professional and objective
Although it can be an emotionally charged situation, you should make sure your correspondence with your ex-wife is strictly business in tone. Although certain issues or discussions may arouse some very strong feelings, control your emotions and do not go down the road of personal insults or attacks when dealing with your ex-wife. Pick neutral, public sites to discuss big matters. Always be on time for your meetings, when you pick up the kids and when you send items such as child support and alimony. Most importantly, if a discussion deteriorates from professional and objective to emotionally charged, cut your losses and suggest reconvening when the dust clears. If you treat the situation more business-like, it is more likely to be reciprocated and end on a civil note rather than a negative falling out between the two of you.
Keep your opinions to yourself
You may hate her new boyfriend or think her decisions make no sense, but take the high road and keep your opinions to yourself when dealing with your ex-wife. Even if you have children together, your lives are no longer joined at the hip and each party has the right to make independent decisions. You may want to spout off, but ultimately you may find she was right and you were wrong. Even worse, if you do always give her your two cents and then you make a mistake, that will really give her something to laugh about -- and you'll lose almost all credibility going forward.
Be thoughtfulEven when both sides want the divorce and it ends relatively amicably, there is always emotional baggage left over. You may want to flaunt your new perfect-10 girlfriend, but consider holding back. If you have the kids for the weekend, take some extra time to wash the dirty laundry: Sending the kids back with a bag of clean clothes will pick you up some points. Overall, despite your failed relationship, both of you are still human. Being thoughtful and courteous will make it easier to communicate about parenting issues and potentially amaze those in your social circle.
Live your lifeThe two of you used to be one, but now you are one and alone. Have the courage to make your own decisions and focus on yourself and your life. Occasionally, you may get some heat from your ex about your parenting skills, dating choices or lifestyle choices, but in the end, her doubts about those are her problems. Making your own choices sets healthy boundaries and ultimately may earn you some respect -- possibly to the point where she will not question every move you make.
Ex-tra marital affairsNobody grows up wishing they will one day be a divorcee or a single parent. Even when both sides are in agreement about moving on, it typically tends to be more of a sad, humbling experience rather than cause for celebration. Particularly if there are financial matters or children involved, your ex-wife will always be in the picture. So, make it easier on yourself by taking a little extra effort to keep the relationship with your ex amicable and respectable.
At first, we scoffed at this “short message service,” famously known as SMS. This new fad of text messaging was too impersonal, too informal, too slow, and not long after, too popular to ignore any longer. What was once a quick way to pass on short messages (remember our old, boxy Nokia phones with selectable options like “Lunch later?” or “Be home after work”?) has now become a forum for the infinite: Formal communication with our bosses, daring late-night messaging with that girl we met at spin class or even a quick hello to grandma, who also somehow has learned what “predictive text” is.
Especially concerning has been the role of SMS within the wide, wide walls of dating. Sure, we can make plans with our buddies or even avoid meetings with our coworkers, but when text messaging begins to dictate the finicky boundaries of love and lust, certain rules apply. A new sort of dialogue is beginning to emerge, so get it right before a text to her phone becomes a slap in the face.
The first dateShe completes your sentences and you open up about your fear of flying. Things begin to spark, and your first night together is a success. If you were lucky enough to pass the first relationship test -- the dreaded first date -- then congratulations. Now, don’t mess it up.
After parting ways from your first date, we once advised to give some time before calling her back and to be patient in making your second move. With the advent of text messaging this protocol has blurred, but don’t be fooled.
The best usage of the post-first-date text is its perceived innocence. Acceptable messages would be: “Hey, I had a great night with you. I can’t wait to do it again,” or, “Just heard someone laugh exactly like that woman we sat next to the other night, except this time she was 60 and had a German accent.” Little tidbits are reminders that you haven’t lost sight of the time you spent together, but avoid formalities that should be settled in person.
Under no circumstances should a man plan his second date with a woman through text. Things like, “Hey, can I pick you up at eight o'clock on Tuesday for a follow-up?” can be detrimental to an early couple’s dynamic. Leave second date plans, or any follow-up plans for that matter, for the traditional phone conversations we all know and love though increasingly try to avoid.
The follow-up date(s)
You've made it this far, so now it's time to focus. The worst downfalls in text communication come with people that you know well enough to speak with but not well enough to pick up the phone and chat with. This dangerous median between comfort and the unknown seems to be the best opportunity for text messaging -- to get that message across without seeming too intrusive. However, even when you’re in the first stages of dating, certain rules still apply.
True-feeling texting: Maybe you had one too many at happy hour or just want to get your point across, but we all have a tendency to grab our phones and start thumbing at our keyboard when we want her to know exactly how we feel -- maybe we’re head over heels in love and never felt like this before, or maybe you can’t deal with the way she talks about her ex boyfriends.
No matter the quarrel, never reduce yourself to typing out the darkest of your relationship fears in a text message. Save this for face-to-face time and you’ll thank yourself for the effort since you’ll either smooth the problem over correctly or discover the unfixable flaw. If you want to tell her how much you like being with her or -- gasp -- that it might even be love, leave the written sonnets to Shakespeare and chat over dinner instead. Extremes of happiness or apprehension should be treated the same with regards to communication, so be cautious before you create more problems.
Rocky-road texting: She left for Vegas with her girlfriends, but you found out her ex will be there too. Accuse her of deceiving you or be a cool new boyfriend? Problems like this are all too common in new love bonds. No matter the answer, don’t let your plan of attack be guided by your SMS inbox.
These are the sorts of fights that become too intricate to battle within the 140-character limit that diminishes genuine feelings, no matter how right or wrong you are. Even if she provokes something, just send her a simple message back. “Don’t worry, we’ll talk later” will suffice until you dig into the problem’s root face to face.
The breakup and beyondPerhaps what happened in Vegas didn’t stay in Vegas, and your girlfriend’s two-day fling with an Argentinean fire breather from Circus Circus didn’t fly with you when she got back. Times are hard and this flame must be put out. Be classy about your approach.
Any breakup initiated by any text is classless. No e-mail, Facebook message or Twitter reply can adequately end ties with any woman under any circumstances. Text messages fall under the same category -- it may have been the worst relationship fathomable, but to break up with a woman through fickle means reflects poorly upon you and any future relationship you plan to have.
After you’ve mustered the courage to “just be friends,” don’t let the easy accessibility of text messaging ease you back into the relationship or even a casual fling. The familiarity of an ex is always alluring in the post-breakup state, especially when we haven’t completely moved on, but beware -- post-breakup romps initiated with a “what r u doin?” sent at 3 a.m. on a Saturday night often breed clinginess, inconvenience and awkward damage control soon after. If there is one lesson learned it’s that the convenience of a text message in the present can lead to more complications in the future.
Do the write thingThe message is clear: Texting is the new wave of communication whether we like it or not. We used to drunk dial and now we drunk message. We used to conference call and now we mass text. The booty call has been replaced by the booty text(s), and we are more apt to trash-talk during fantasy football with our typing fingers rather than our big mouths. Showing off our literacy has never been so popular, but don’t flush your love life down the toilet by showing that you’re uneducated within the realm of texting.
Proper timing is crucial to executing a successful pickup: If you jump in too quickly, you’ll come across as desperate and needy; hang back and dillydally around, and another guy will walk over and start his game.
When another guy comes in and crowds your play, you’ll likely become frustrated and irritated. Have no fear though, there is a last-ditch effort you can employ if you really don't want to give up and find another target: You can become the cockblocker.
Cockblocking another guy during his pickup is unpleasant, but it is something that must be done from time to time. Regardless of the reason, there are elements of the “guy code” that have to followed, even in this nefarious business. Just keep the following things in mind: Don't do this to a friend (as if you'd even consider it), don't badmouth your rival when he's not around (that's something chicks do), and don't moan about it if someone pulls some of these tricks on you.
Before we get started on cockblocking, remember that the goal here is the pickup, not the competition. Pay attention to your female target with some flirting and conversation as you politely, without being a jerk, give your adversary the cockblock. He'll know what you're trying to pull -- let him hang himself as he tries to retaliate due to his jealousy and paranoia. Those points now out of the way, here are five great ways to cockblock your competition.
Admit itThey say fortune favors the bold, so if you’re accused of cockblocking, straight up admit to it and make light of the situation. Try to keep it light and nonconfrontational. The best way to blow it with the girl is to walk up and insult the guy, plus you’ll likely find trouble in the parking lot afterwards. If you can temper the cockblock situation with humor, do so. Buy a round of drinks: a Cosmo for her and a glass of milk for him. Or, as juvenile as it seems, make a bar bet (one you know you'll win) and the victor gets to stay with the girl.
This is a high-risk strategy that pays well if you’re successful. You will either fail or succeed very quickly. If the girl doesn't tell you to beat it, a victorious outcome is probably on deck.
Send in a wingmanThe direct cockblock approach might not suit everyone. Using a wingman to distract the rival might be an easier and more subtle method for the faint of heart. Entering the battlefield with a wingman effectively eliminates the other guy from the equation and leaves you free to engage your target.
During the cockblock, a good wingman should be able to keep 100% of the guy’s attention. This is because your brother in arms knows that he doesn't need to impress the girl, and the rival won't want to cause a scene and ruin his chances with the girl. At the very least, talk of sports, cars, work or other women will draw him away from the girl and into a genuine conversation. A best-case scenario will see your rival being taken off for a game of pool, which will hopefully uncover some unattractive personality traits, such as an aggressive competitive streak.
You’ll have to repay the cockblock favor to your wingman, but if he is worth his cred, he’ll likely find a date for himself and his new ”buddy.”
Send in a wingwoman
In these times of equality, take advantage of the wingwoman. With a hot female friend who is willing to step up as your cockblocker, the following methods can be most devastating to your rival’s efforts.
Using your wingwoman as a honeypot may be morally dubious, but it is certainly effective. Few men can resist an obvious come-on by an attractive women. A simple tap on the shoulder, a smile and an inquiry about being bought a drink will at least create enough of a distraction for you to step in and make contact. The fact that he was distracted should be enough to put off your target. If he does rejoin the pickup, the perceived back-up score with your wingwoman may cause him to drop out of the competition more quickly.
If you have a hard time convincing your wingwoman to parade around in front of a stranger, there's still room to maneuver. Disguised as a fake ex, your wingwoman can head over and slap your rival, leaving an unsettling impression with your target. The fake-ex play is made more effective when coupled with a shake of the head and a herpes comment. A less dramatic approach is for your wingwoman to have a ”friendly chat,” in which she reveals true or false details about your rival, with your target in the bathroom.
Coordinate a “flashmobbing”A persistent rival could dodge the diversions of the best wingman and ignore the seductions of a wingwoman. He'll find it more difficult, however, to avoid a whole group. Gather all your friends, giving them instructions to concentrate on the guy, and descend upon your target and rival.
Once you establish conversation with the object of your desire, more people can pour into the gap between you and your rival. Using tactics such as conversation, challenges to games and rounds of shots, your friends should be able to force your enemy into a separate group, where he’ll sit and watch you succeed.
The key is to whisk her away as soon as the gap has been created. Invite her to a quieter, more secluded section of the bar that is far away from his sphere of influence. Once you’ve given the signal that you’re in, your friends can get back to enjoying their night -- especially with the drinks that you now owe them.
Let him talk about himselfIf nothing shifts the guy, let him talk himself out of a successful pickup. Bring the conversation round to him and ask him plenty of questions (don't forget to keep the girl involved though). Let him undermine himself with his own responses. For example, make a comment about his Rolex and once he starts to brag endlessly about it, he will come across as a flashy ass.
Watch your target's responses to his talk. Steer your rival’s conversation toward the things that she isn't responding to and lightly mock him. Again, don't turn it into a pissing match between the two of you.
Also, use her responses to tailor your approach according to her tastes. When he leaves the table to get more drinks, steer the conversation toward something that she wants to talk about. Keep it one-to-one and use body language to exclude him when he returns.
Cockblock on stockThere are many ways to achieve a successful cockblock. It can be as simple as walking up to a girl, ignoring the guy and asking her name or as complex as motivating half the bar to distract your rival.
In most circumstances, the need to cockblock can be completely avoided if you are decisive and act quickly. The sooner you make your approach after the initial eye-contact and smile, the better off you’ll be. Don't rush over like a schoolboy, but once you've finished your drink head to the bar and pay her a visit on the way. And if another guy suddenly straddles your side, keep an eye out for what you've just learned.
Certain ladies shouldn't be touched with a 10-foot pole, no matter how hot they are. Instead of giving in to temptation, distract yourself from the desire. Take a class, help kids or take in a ballgame, but whatever you do, stay away from these women you can never date. Generally, the reason to avoid these ladies has nothing to do with the woman herself, but it has everything to do with her context in your life.
Read on for a list of 7 women you can never date, and save your reputation, your bank account, your job, and your friendships.
1- Your best friend's sisterThe woman you know the best will often appeal to you the most. But if she is your best friend's sister, getting lucky can mean two months of fun followed by the need to move to another part of the city. She makes the “7 women you can never date” list because as soon as sis becomes sweetheart, you'll be walking on eggshells with your buddy. Gone are the days of complaining to your friend about your women troubles because the conflict of interest ruins the good times, and the first time you make a mess of things, he will likely want to beat your ass.
2- Your secretaryThere are plenty of reasons to keep your mitts off the help. It can get you into all kinds of trouble -- legal and otherwise -- should the relationship go south. But even if the fling goes well, you have problems. You'll soon be tempted to push the limits of what you can get away with at work, perhaps in the janitor's closet. Love at the office is an enormous distraction from your work, especially if you are in charge of her. Others are always watching what you are doing. Worst of all, once the relationship ends, she will enjoy leverage over you, and may use it simply by gossiping about what happened in the aforementioned closet.
3- The ex-girlfriendEx-girlfriends are one of the 7 women you can never date. Yet, the ex-girlfriend becomes increasingly seductive as loneliness sets in. After several years of eating the only three meals you know how to prepare, you can easily get blown away when she follows up chicken parmesan one night with chicken marsala the next. She might clean your apartment one day while you were getting loaded at happy hour, and you'll want her there permanently. The loneliness will make you forget the reason the two of you broke up in the first place, but should you jump back into the relationship, those reasons will resurface in no time.
4- The hot trailer girl
Have you seen Maury Povich? Let that show be a warning to you if you are smitten by the hooker with a heart of gold. It's fool's gold -- the hot trailer girl is definitely one of the 7 girls you can never date. The scenario goes something like this: You were in the club enjoying the company of a young woman whose breasts were rubbing against you like two sea lions on a beach, and then you got confused. Enjoy the one-nighter, but the next time you see her at bar time, you would be wise to end up at Denny's eating a Grand Slam breakfast.
5- Your friend's exWhen you witness the breakup of your buddy and his hot girlfriend, your mind will invariably wander to a place better left untouched. Since you’ve spent lots of time around her, you already have an established relationship -- albeit a non-sexual one. Chances are you already imagined what it would be like while she was still dating your pal, and her new freedom may pique your interest, but be forewarned: She is one of the 7 women you can never date. If you value your friendship, avoid her at all costs. What men forget to consider is the aftermath of hooking up with a friend’s ex. The word will spread to everyone else in your circle about what type of friend you are, and you’ll kill your own reputation. It doesn’t matter how long ago they broke up, whether they’re friends now or not, if your buddy’s replaced her with a new girlfriend, the answer is always no. Unless, of course, you enjoy getting your ass kicked.
6- The high-maintenance piranhaIf you value your money and your manhood, the high-maintenance chick is also one of the 7 women you can never date. She will love you for your increased earnings at first, but then will consider you to be a soulless workaholic incapable of intimacy. Once you've built up a nest egg, her divorced friends will start directing her on how to devour that nest egg whole, just like a snake. She will give you the screw of a lifetime, but not the kind you’re seeking.
7- The stripperOf the women you can never date, the stripper is worse than the hot trailer girl. No, she is not stripping to pay for school. Yes, she might be a hard-luck case, but sooner or later you will be acting like a body guard, thinking you can protect her honor from a rowdy bachelor party. If you think jealousy is beneath you, wait until you observe a private dance from afar when the john offers an extra C-note for a happy ending.
Bad news babesThe longer you've been single, the more prone you are to date off-limit women. But we've clearly outlined the 7 women you can never date. Remember: Do not follow your instinct and dive directly into the hive. Take care of the temptation in one of two ways: through manual relief or through reverting to an old fling who now reminds you of a broken-in catcher's mitt.
You’ve seen them on television and you've read about them in magazines: spoiled women who are always demanding a little more -- and not just from the men in their lives, but from anyone who comes within a generous inch of them. Now you’ve found yourself dating a woman who unfortunately falls into this category (perhaps against your better judgment) -- your “guy” instinct went haywire the second she coyly passed you the comment that she can’t be seen downtown in your old, rusty four-door, or that the bracelet you bought her wasn’t the same number of karats she had in mind...
However, never fear -- you don’t have to turn into a free-spending sucker just to win this girl over. In fact, there are a few ways a guy can disarm her bratty behavior and convince her to enjoy the finer things in life (including your classy, independent self). If you’ve decided to take on the challenge of getting into a relationship with a spoiled chick, these tips will help you convert her to the good side
Establish yourself as the plannerHere’s some food for thought: What happens when you let the spoiled chick plan the evening? A simple evening out and a chance to impress the object of your affection becomes your worst nightmare. You’ll be dragged along on a leash trying to keep up with her, while she’s out painting the town red -- all on your dime. Sound like your type of date? We didn’t think so.
First things first, you have to establish that you’re taking control of this date. If you don’t take the reins from the get-go, it’s going to be a long night and she’s not going to let you step in and reverse your fortunes before the financial (and emotional) damage has been done. Organize the date well in advance and promise her a good time doing tried, tested and true activities that you know won’t drain your cash yet that will still offer a great time.
Make her wait
Spoiling is actually not a bad thing for a relationship -- it just has to be done in moderation and at the right time. Just like eating a tasty desert and getting a stomachache afterward, spoiling her upfront can be too much of a good thing and will only make her complacent with regard to your romantic endeavors.
Remember, you’re trying to break her out of that habit, and the best way for it to happen is to make sure that she appreciates that which you do give her, and these things will increase in magnitude the more the relationship blossoms. When you first start dating, don’t break the bank. Simple pleasures and cheap thrills are standard fare for getting to know each other. And if she’s worth it, she’ll buy into it. The key is to use time to your advantage, and spoiling her with meaningful gifts later down the line is far more romantic and healthy for the relationship in the long run.
Give her a non-material experienceNot everything costs money. A spoiled woman who enjoys material goods and getting her way is still a human at heart, meaning that that deep down, she is capable of appreciating the little things life has to offer -- that is, things that don’t have a price tag attached. Activities can include taking walks, conversing, getting exercise, reading books, watching movies or even just cuddling on the couch.
When you’re dating a woman who’s spoiled, try engaging in these subtle activities with her more frequently to disarm her spoiled behavior. When she’s busy doing things that don’t command the red-carpet treatment, her otherwise high-maintenance tendencies will start to break down. Of course, you will have to lavish her from time to time in order to keep her comfortable (and prove that you’re not a cheap-ass), but this is a great way to get her to enjoy your company while not breaking the bank.
Give her a humbling experienceIn addition to providing her with non-material experiences, you can even go one step further and engage her in humbling ones. This actually might be more effective for the more stubborn types, because if she truly values spending time with you, she’ll get her hands a little dirty and join you in something that can help better those around her and her society in general.
Some great ideas include volunteering at a local homeless shelter for an evening, roughing it in the bush for the weekend, or even just babysitting your niece or nephew for the afternoon. The nice thing about these activities is that they provide a test: if she can trudge through these rewarding experiences, it’s worth it to take her out on the next date. There might be a few complaints along the way, but if she can sacrifice her own spoiled habits to make it happen, she’ll definitely be a keeper.
Don’t respond to her tantrumsInevitably, there will be a few kinks along the way if you’re trying to break her out of her spoiled habits. People don’t change their personalities overnight, and spoiled chicks are no exception. Therefore, you’re going to have to be patient (as mentioned earlier), but more importantly, you don’t want to give in to or respond to her tantrums if she doesn’t get what she wants. The worst thing a guy can do is submit to whiny behavior. There are two consequences when this happens: 1) You’re just going to be fueling her unattractive “me-first” attitude with your wallet, and 2) You’ll be turning into that submissive sucker who can be manipulated like a gob of putty. When she reacts like this, don’t have any part of it. Stand up for yourself and tell her you’re not buying that attitude, but try to come to a compromise that works for the both of you. When you show that you’re standing your ground, but can still meet her in the middle, you’ll be the confident, suave guy who can handle any disastrous date, and she’ll appreciate you for it.
Get her into groupthinkAnother effective way to remove her "spoiled" tag is to get her to join in on the fun. Group activities are a great way to neutralize her spoiled tendencies -- if she’s going to be dating you, she’s going to have to enjoy your friends as well. It’s in basic human nature to not want to be the "black swan" of the group; no one wants to be the social outcast, and that includes a spoiled love interest. So what are some good activities to help her overcome her spoiled habits? Take her camping with friends or engage in team sports. By becoming a member of the "team," she can learn to appreciate your friends and the activities you like, and she can also become a little more grounded by getting her feet "dirty."
Spoiled goodsWhen it comes to spoiled women, it’s not impossible to break them out of that mold. Be honest, stand your ground and always show her the finer things in life when you can. Remember, getting too much of a good thing is what spoiled her in the first place: be patient, resourceful and have self-respect, and she’ll come to appreciate you and your non-spoiled ways.
Quite often, we are forced to make difficult decisions in our relationships. One of the most intimidating decisions, however, is the decision to walk away. With every relationship, there is an eventual recognition of this counterpoint; that is, where one has to decide whether or not the relationship is worth continuing. Imagine driving down a road that eventually comes to a fork -- it forces you to choose one way or another.
However, before you make this decision, you must understand why you want to end the relationship, or choose right from left as the case may be. Then you can predict what the consequences will be like after the breakup.
The three most common reasons why men end relationships are irreconcilable mistakes, limited perspectives and alternative directions. Although it is naïve to think that all relationships end for these three reasons, breakups usually fall into one or a combination of those categories.
So, let's take a look at these three relationship killers and divulge a bit of breakup psychology along the way.
Irreconcilable mistakesCheating is a great example of an irreconcilable mistake. Surprisingly, contrary to what you may believe, cheating does not necessarily imply that your partner sees a lack of value in the relationship. It may just be the result of one of you acting on a physical, emotional and/or sexual desire. Infidelity, at the impassioned moment, supersedes the importance of remaining faithful to a relationship.
Therefore, you should not take it personally if your relationship ends due to an irreconcilable mistake. One of you acted in this manner in order to serve what was in your/her best interest at that time. When you don't take mistakes like these personally, you are able to view the relationship from a non-biased and perhaps more rational perspective. Assimilate the circumstances; consider the advice you would give to a friend if he were in the situation. Ultimately, it is up to the cheated party to decide if the mistake is large enough to burden the relationship.
Limited perspectivesOver time, perspectives can be become limited. Outside influences introduce new circumstances into the relationship, and given the new circumstances, the importance of the relationship diminishes for the two people involved.
Distance, for example, is an outside influence that may cause a limited perspective. Let us role play here for a moment: Your girlfriend just got a job in a new city and has to weigh the possibility of having to relocate. In one possible scenario, she believes that the consequences of enduring a long distance relationship outweigh their respective benefits. Her feelings gradually change to accommodate such new circumstances. Therefore, she has developed a limited perspective in that she cannot continue with the relationship if she moves to a new city.
It is best to foresee the changes that can trigger a limited perspective. Foresight is important because it can help you roll with the changes, rather than simply react to them. The best possible way to accomplish such a daunting task is to maintain an open line of communication with your partner. Ask her questions to find out what may cause limited perspectives in your relationship. Finding this out is important because limited perspectives test your relationship, and whether your relationship can endure such tests will determine its longevity.
Should you choose to end the relationship because of her limited perspective, then there is no need to accept responsibility for that action. The reason is that the outside influence that caused the limited perspective holds more value to her than the relationship itself. Essentially, it is beyond your control.
Alternative directionsAlternative directions imply that two people in a relationship are gradually separating their personal, professional and/or relational aspirations from one another. It may also result from a conflict of beliefs or values.
People grow apart -- it happens all the time. Your lives may be heading on two different paths, which unfortunately do not have the same end point. At first, you chose to initiate a relationship with her because of an emotional connection (yes, even a sexual connection involves some emotion). However, these impulsive desires eventually subside, and for the most part, logic will begin to guide your relationship. At this point, the real questions arise:
- Do I see a future with this person?
- Can this person serve as a complement to my goals and desires?
- Does she want the same things in life that I want?
- Is it beneficial for the both of us to remain in this relationship?
You may choose to terminate the relationship because your goals are no longer congruent with hers. Knowing that you are leading two separate lifestyles (possibly caused by family, work, religion, drugs, etc.) will unavoidably create enough friction to alter the perceptions in the relationship.
However, it may be fortunate that you end a relationship because of such a cause. Many people make the mistake of continuing the relationship much longer than intended; some even get married only to regret it later down the road. As a result, the two people involved become unsatisfied or unfulfilled in their pursuit of happiness.
In order to avoid this predicament, it is best to understand your long-term goals before you seek out a long-term relationship. In essence, you must find yourself before you find someone else. Having this understanding will allow you to search for someone who can complement your lifestyle, rather than attempt to change it.
Breakup 101During the course of your relationship, it is best to have these few ideas in mind so that you can avoid a problematic breakup: Don’t take things personally, seek out limited perspectives and understand your long-term objectives. Focusing on these issues will allow you to walk away from a relationship without any regret.
Although it would be unfair to say all Players are essentially the same in terms of traits and personality, anybody who labels themselves a “ladies' man” holds firm to a base set of ideals. Hence, there are certain words that aren’t part of the Player’s vocabulary, and certain sayings that will never escape his lips. If you’re a woman and you’re asking yourself, “How can I spot a ‘Player?’" then you simply need to listen for the following statements; if you ever hear any of them, your guy doesn’t qualify. A successful pickup artist is typically endowed with the gift of gab, but thanks to time and experience, he carefully selects what chitchat he makes. To the receptive girl, it always sounds smooth and casual; never forced and never strained, and capable of allowing most any woman to relax in mere minutes. In short, Players are master conversationalists but they’re also experts at controlling their own fate. Always remember: Players would never say anything to compromise those aforementioned ideals.
“I love you”It’s a predictable No. 1, but all the critical women out there should realize that avoiding this heartfelt statement saves you a great deal of stress and pain. As the Player has no enemies -- male or female -- and he frowns on manipulation and deception, he isn’t about to toy with a woman’s heart just to satisfy his base desires. At no point will a true ladies' man say, “I love you.” While it does indeed stem from a dislike of commitment, these three little words only lead to trouble. A Player will spare you that. There may come a day when a pickup artist does say what every woman wants to hear when they’re playing “wedding dress-up” as little girls, but if so that means two things: 1) He means it; and 2) He has voluntarily turned in his Player license. Only the cruel and evil say, “I love you” to get what they want, and then go on their merry way.
“I don’t care -- whatever you want to do”
At no point is a Player disinterested in his partner’s hobbies and activities, and at no point does he relinquish all control of the situation. There’s a reason why you typically only hear this statement from married or committed men; men who have already accepted their fate and have lost all interest in the proceedings. The ladies' man is always interested in hearing a woman’s suggestions for plans and he’s never a doormat, as he understands the ceaseless female desire for avid communication. No man who claims to be successful in the playing field says, “I don’t care” very often, as it typically halts a discussion prematurely and signifies an apathetic approach to the relationship dynamic -- and possibly even a weak personality. Besides, “whatever you want to do” could mean just about anything, and no Player leaves so much to chance.