Signs She'll Make A Bad Wife Via. AskMen.com

• What You Need To Know
• Certain characteristics are warning signs for a troubled marriage down the road.
• Traits like jealousy and flightiness don't disappear after marriage.
• If she wants you to change now, she will still want to once you're married.

"Contrary to the wisdom of pop songs, love is not enough to make a marriage work. "

If you’re thinking of asking your girlfriend to become your wife, there are a few things to consider first. Deciding if you’re ready to make the commitment to marriage is only half the battle. Now you must figure out if the woman in your life is the right one to devote yourself to until death do you part. It’s a complex situation, but there are a few warning signs that your girlfriend is not marriage material. Here's some of the most obvious hints that she’ll make a bad wife.

She’s flighty

A woman who has trouble committing to a job, a friendship or even a hairstyle might not be the best person to swear your undying loyalty to. If she has tried numerous short-lived career paths or is constantly making new friends and dropping the old ones, these may be indications that she’s not the kind of girl who’s in it for the long haul. Settling down simply may not be in the cards for someone so free-spirited and fickle.

Even if she sticks around, consider the possibility that her ever-changing lifestyle could derail your own life plan as well. Getting married means combining your lives in nearly every sense. Give some serious thought as to whether or not she will be a good influence on your future.

She’s jealous

If your girlfriend is jealous of every girl who comes near you, putting a ring on her finger is not going to make her more secure. Everyone gets jealous sometimes, but if you find yourself constantly having to reassure her that the other women in your life are not a threat to her, this could spell doom for a long-term commitment. A good wife is not possessive or irrational. As long as you’re not giving her any reason to be suspicious, she should be able to keep the green-eyed monster in check.

Her sex drive doesn’t match yours

Sex is an important part of any relationship, and the way you relate to each other physically has a big influence on whether you stay together after you say “I do.” One sign that she might make a bad wife is if her sex drive differs wildly from yours. Whether it’s much higher or much lower than your own, her libido will have a huge effect on your happiness as a married couple. Sex-drive issues can be the result of medical or psychological problems, so problems might come and go, but either way, it’s best to work this out before you walk down the aisle.

She doesn’t want your friends around

A girl who disapproves of you hanging out with your friends will become a wife who doesn’t want you to have your own life outside of the marriage. Even if she’s not that fond of your buddies, she shouldn't stand in the way of you spending time with them on your own. Provided your friends aren’t convincing you to rob banks or some other objectionable behavior, she should trust you to make your own decisions about your friends. If she tries to restrict that now, it’ll only get worse after you say your vows.

She tries to change you

If your girlfriend is constantly nitpicking about your appearance, your behavior, your personality, your career path, your friends, and your habits, she is essentially telling you that you’re not good enough for her. Everyone can make improvements in their lives, and a good partner should help you become a better man, but if she’s forever on your case about changing one thing or another, she’s going to make a bad wife.

You also have to decide whether or not the things she’s asking you to change are reasonable or out of the question. Can you give up your vision of a loft downtown for her desire for a house in the suburbs? What if you’ve always wanted to be a father and she is dead-set against having children? Ask yourself how much you’re willing to give up to please her.

Not marriage material

Contrary to the wisdom of pop songs, love is not enough to make a marriage work. Getting married means sharing your entire life with another person, so you want to make absolutely sure that she is someone you’ll be happy spending time with day in and day out. Keep an eye out for these warning signs that she will make a bad wife and avoid committing to the wrong woman.

Signs She'll Make A Bad Wife Via. AskMen.com

What Do Women Consider Good Sex?

• What You Need To Know
• Consider foreplay a 24-hour experience that happens in and out of the bedroom.
• Play to your strengths by being confident in your abilities.
• Think in terms of stimulating her vulva rather than just penetrating the vagina.

"Sure, familiarity can breed boredom, but it can also yield consistent orgasms. "

As a sex therapist and founder of GoodinBed.com as well as the author of numerous books on the subject of pleasuring, such as She Comes First, I guess you could say I have one thing on my mind. Sex is pretty much all I think about and talk about all day (and if I’m lucky, I also get to do it with my wife). Over the years, I’ve learned a thing or two about how to pleasure a woman, so without further ado, here are my 10 “best practices” for being truly good in bed.

1- Think like a “knob,” not a “switch.”

When comparing male and female sexuality, there’s no shortage of adages: “Men are like light switches -- just flip them on, and they’re ready to go. Women are like knobs -- you can turn them up and down.” Or as Dr. Emily Nagoski writes in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, “Men are like driving standard transmission -- if you move through the gears in the right order, you will get where you want to go. Women are like baking a soufflé -- the outcome depends on the ingredients and the chef, sure, but it  also depends on the reliability of the oven, the altitude, the humidity of the day… more variables, more variability.” In short, think of foreplay as a 24-hour experience that happens both in and out of the bedroom. Sex is all about context. And while it may take very little to rev your engine, remember that she probably needs to simmer.

2- When you’re getting it on, make sure she’s completely relaxed and comfortable.

Researchers in the Netherlands have found that the key to getting a woman turned on and to the heights of orgasmic bliss is a deep sense of relaxation and a lack of anxiety. Brain scans showed that the parts of women’s brains responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion slowed down the more aroused they became, producing a trancelike state at orgasm. Men showed far less change in these regions. “What this means is that deactivation, letting go of all fear and anxiety, might be the most important thing, even necessary, to have an orgasm,” says the study’s lead researcher, Dr. Gert Holstege.

3- Take the time to figure out what works.

Every woman is different, and most women don’t even orgasm the first couple of times they’re with a guy. A woman has to feel comfortable, and a guy has to figure out what makes her tick sexually. Some women love wet, sloppy kisses; other women find saliva a total turnoff. Some women love lots of breast stimulation; other women can’t stand it at all. Some women love to be on top in bed; others love missionary style. Some women respond to intense clitoral stimulation; others require very little. Some women have an innate capacity to experience multiple orgasms; others are more like guys -- they roll over, and they’re ready to go to sleep. Figure out a sex script that works, and stick to it. Sure, familiarity can breed boredom, but it can also yield consistent orgasms.

4- Once you know what works, wrap it in something fresh: fantasy.

A healthy fantasy life is one of the keys to a great sex life -- even when your partner might not always play the leading role. Most people find that they are most sexually satisfied when they are intimate with one person with whom they feel completely comfortable. Along with this intimacy comes the freedom to let go and explore, including fantasizing about other people, places and situations. One study on sexual fantasy by noted expert Dr. Harold Leitenberg found that sexual fantasies occur most often in people with the highest sexual satisfaction and the healthiest sex lives. If you need some ideas, check out our Good in Bed Guide to 52 Weeks of Amazing Sex, in which we offer a different sexy scenario for every week of the year.

5- Play to your strengths.

Very few guys make love like porn stars, nor should we. We live in the real world, and we all have sexual strengths and weaknesses. For example, I suffered from premature ejaculation for years and compensated with oral sex. Some men suffer from erectile disorder on a regular basis, and some guys have a smaller-than-average penis. Develop “sex scripts” -- paths to pleasure -- that play to your strengths. And be willing to communicate. As Dr. Madeleine Castellanos writes in her guide to Male Sexual Issues, “Wouldn’t it be great if penises could talk -- honestly and clearly -- about their feelings, especially when it comes to issues in the bedroom?” Most women don’t know how to “speak penis,” so give them a clue

Many women claim to lose an orgasm just as they're on the verge of having one. "

6- Get cliterate.

When embarking on a journey of female sexual response, know your way around her vulva -- from the northern tippy-top of the clitoral glans (the “love-button,” so to speak), to the western and eastern boundaries of the labia minora (her inner lips), to the southernmost regions of the perineum (the smooth expanse of skin just below the vaginal entrance) and anus. Stop thinking of the clitoris as a little bump, and start thinking of it as a complex network, a pleasure dome, the Xanadu at the heart of female sexuality. The clitoris has more than 8,000 nerve fibers -- more than any other part of the human body -- and interacts with another 15,000 nerve fibers that service the entire pelvic area. “Nerves are like wolves or birds: If one starts crying, there goes the neighborhood,” writes Natalie Angier of the clitoral network. Think in terms of stimulating her vulva rather than just penetrating her vagina.

7- The tongue is mightier than the sword.

When it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man’s native tongue. Even porn star Ron Jeremy, in possession of the famous 10-inch member, observed, “More women have gotten off with my tongue than with my penis.” Once found, a skilled cunnilinguist rarely goes unappreciated. Not sure exactly how? Just press a flat, still tongue against her vulva, and let her do the work. It’s the cunnilingus equivalent of letting her get on top.Unfortunately many men do not learn the true principles of cunnilingus or how to pleasure a woman at the outset, and so, even with the best intentions, their form is without substance. If we were to compare cunnilingus to another art -- the martial arts -- it would be Tai Chi. Unlike Kung Fu, Tai Chi is slow, focused and graceful, with an emphasis on the balance of yin/yang (male/female energy) to create a harmony of movement and strength. Artful cunnilingus involves many of the same principles as Tai Chi: stillness within movement, balance and pressure, resistance, and key postures. In the Good in Bed Guide to Orally Pleasuring a Woman, we outline our approach to sexual Tai Chi, also called the Mount Method.

8- Show some sexual courtesy, as in “she comes first.”

Unlike men, women don’t reach a point of “orgasmic inevitability” -- the moment when, even without further physical stimulation, a guy ventures past the point of no return. In fact, men and women are so different in this respect that many women claim to “lose” an orgasm just as they’re on the verge of having one, which can be particularly frustrating, especially if it occurs regularly. Guys need to pay attention to the journey through female arousal, particularly those final moments of potential orgasmic ecstasy. Recognize the visible signs of female arousal, mainly the muscular tension that develops throughout her body and that will ultimately demand release. Look especially for tension in the hands and feet and throughout her pelvic area.

9- Grab a vibrator off the shelf.

Make like Obi-Wan Kenobi with that thing. Wield it like a Jedi master, and the force of the female orgasm will be with you. According to Nagoski, most women orgasm easiest when using a vibrator. “The mechanical vibration provided by toys is more intense than anything a hand, phallus, tongue, fresh produce, or other organic stimulus can provide,” she writes. “More stimulation [leads to] more arousal [leads to] easier/faster orgasm.” Women generally take longer to orgasm than men, and a lot of men find it hard to last long enough during sex. A vibrator helps you and your partner get at least halfway home, if not take you all the way. And as I discuss in my guide to Overcoming Premature Ejaculation, “With just a little bit of practice, a guy can take the pressure off of his penis and not worry about how long he’s going to last, but instead enjoy the immediacy of plugging into his partner’s arousal.”

10- Finally, don’t forget to cuddle.

To paraphrase the pioneering sexologist Theodore van de Velde, it’s in the moments after orgasm that a man proves whether or not he's an “erotically civilized” adult.

What Do Women Consider Good Sex?

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Eva Mendes Says “Marriage Is Boring and Unnecessary” LOL

If you want to get with Eva Mendes, then you don’t necessarily have to put a ring on it. The oh-so-sexy actress from movies like Hitch and The Other Guys has taken a vow of non-marriage:

“I just don’t think marriage is necessary, as necessary as society makes it. And I don’t have a negative point of view on it. I just think it’s a very old tradition and if you look back to what marriage symbolizes in the first place… it has nothing to do with why we get married today.

“I don’t know if I want children, but the idea of marriage sounds very boring to me. I have to be honest… I am extremely romantic but I think there is that little rebel inside me that is anti-establishment. It’s just one more fun thing I can rebel against.”

So you mean to tell us that if you want to get with Eva, you can live with her, enjoy making sweet love to her and leave whenever you want without having to pay half? Where in the world do we sign up?

Via. Bossip!

Eva Mendes Says “Marriage Is Boring and Unnecessary” LOL

Has She Gone Crazy?

• What You Need To Know
• Beware: Crazy women will hook you with sex.
• Signs of her going crazy include dramatic episodes, jealousy and insecurity.
• Dating a crazy woman robs you of your freedom.

"Let's face it: There is nothing like having sex with a crazy woman. "

You're dating your dream girl, and almost everything about her is amazing. You've had a blissful first 30 days. Yes, there have been moments when you scratched your head and thought, “Hmm, her reactions are a little bit off.” But you ignored them because, well, she’s gorgeous, fun and the sex is fantastic.

Just when you think you may have found someone great to hang with, Dream Girl becomes Crazed Lunatic Woman. Has she gone crazy? Let me walk you through the scenario.

Her crazy episodes   

You're out to dinner, enjoying a cocktail with Dream Girl. When the waitress comes to the table to take your order, you smile and tell her how you’d like your steak prepared.

All of a sudden, Dream Girl accuses you of having the hots for the waitress. Her eyes turn all maniacal and her mellifluous voice turns shrill. She is screaming at you. You are so mortified that you want to crawl under the table. Dream Girl storms off to the bathroom.

But it gets better.

Perplexed by all that is happening, you decide that the best course of action is to follow her and try to calm her down by “reasoning with her.” When you get to the ladies’ room, you learn, from the line of women waiting, that she has locked the door. You gently knock, softly pleading with her to let you in. She’s still screaming, but now she’s crying as well. She demands that you admit that you were flirting with the waitress and that you apologize.

Has she gone crazy? What do you do? What any rational man would do. You deny it, of course, and tell her that you were not flirting with the waitress. But, alas, that makes her crazier.

If a scene like this has happened to you, you need to understand that this type of behavior is just the tip of the iceberg, guys. Dream Girl is Crazed Lunatic Woman. In hindsight, you recognize that you have seen glimpses of strange behavior, but nothing like her restaurant reality show.

Dating a crazy woman

So, the question is: What do you do when you're dating beautiful Dream Girl and she becomes Crazed Lunatic Woman? Well, guys, you have a decision to make. The relationship has been great up until now. The sex has been off the charts. Let’s face it: There is nothing like having sex with a crazy woman. If this is not your first tango with a crazy woman, then you have probably noticed that the sex is incredible, fun and fantastic. Do you know why? Because these women are crazy. My theory? The sex with a crazy woman has to be great because it's one of the few things that she can do to hook you in. These crazy women know and understand that if they can hook a man sexually, they have a shot at a relationship. These are the women who show up at your office with a raincoat on and lingerie underneath. She will lure you in sexually so that it will balance out her other lunatic behavior. She is crazy, not stupid.

Has she gone crazy? Yup. Here's what to do about it...

"So, can you reel a crazy girl in? Can you get her to act normal? "

Lots of guys will stick it out and attempt to reel her back in to this place the rest of us call “sanity.” These guys might think, “She's just freaking out a little bit about the waitress right now, so I'll apologize and I'll make sure it never happens again.” But it does happen again. And again. And again.

These are the women who text you at midnight multiple times. “Where are you?” “I thought you were going to be home!” “Are you still out with your friends?” “Are you out there flirting?” “Are you cheating on me?”

So, can you reel a crazy girl in? Can you get her to act normal? 

A resounding “no!”

This is who she is. If you want to stay with this woman, you must accept her, embrace her and learn to work with her. You will need to make sure that you don't look at the waitress. When you're out with friends, you'd better text her and tell her that you're thinking of her and you can't wait to go home and be with her. Make no mistake, you'll never be able to explain rationally to her that you're just out with your friends having a beer and watching the Mets. You're going to have to soothe her fragile ego and her insecurities on a daily basis. So, if you're dating Crazy Lunatic Woman and you really like her -- or really think you might love her -- then you're going to have to learn how to deal with her because she is not going to change. People do not change, their behaviors do not change, and this is a behavior that she's been hiding from you.

Managing a crazy woman

The only way for you to reel her back in and get back your peace of mind is to continually be on damage control and to anticipate her chronic outbursts. You'll learn her tendencies. You'll know that when you go out with friends, she's going to fly off the handle. You’ll know that you will have to text her a few times telling her how much you're thinking about her and how much you can't wait to see her later. You will have to constantly keep her mind at peace because you know she has a jealous side. She exposed it to you many times now. So, whenever you're walking down the street and you see an attractive woman, you say, “Oh man, you're the hottest woman on the entire block. There is nobody prettier than you!” You're going to have to play into her craziness. When you're out to dinner, you're going to have to look at the pretty waitress, order and then say, “She's way too skinny.” You're going to have to do some damage control before the damage happens. This is what happens when she's gone crazy. So, if you want to play that game, great.

Personally, dating crazy women isn't for me. I don't want to play that game. It's not worth it. I don't care how great the sex is, I know that there are other women who are more grounded, saner, mellower, and also great in bed. I hated coming home to a firestorm every time I was out late with friends. So, for me, I chose that path.

But some of you can't give up these crazy women. If that’s the case, the path you're going to need to choose is the one of constant damage control. And one with regular access to Xanax...Good Luck - PB

Has She Gone Crazy?

Is She The One?

• What You Need To Know
• Identify whether you are in love or in lust before getting serious.
• Making a list of deal breakers, goals and qualities you seek will keep you on track.
• Become aware of your own relationship needs to avoid repeating mistakes.

"Everyone is addicted to falling in love (and with good reason)"

When it comes to dating, relationships and marriage, guys throughout history have asked the same questions -- let’s call them the “Eternal Questions" -- over and over: “When is the right time to have sex?” “How do I know it’s time to break up?” “What do I do when she gets pregnant and we didn’t plan it?” These are the sorts of challenges I’ll help you deal with by addressing a new question every week. If you have your own questions you’d like answered, please e-mail me. I’ve been helping people deal with these issues professionally for 14 years. On AskMen, I hope to help even more of you find some positive solutions and move your lives in the directions you want them to go.

A part of you hopes and prays your next first date will be your last, that she’ll turn out to be “the one.” You hope the relationship will magically (and effortlessly) progress and that you will fall madly in love. But is she "the one"?   

Let’s face it: Everyone is addicted to falling in love (and with good reason). It feels amazing, and the high we get when falling in love is unparalleled.    

Addicted to love   

Like all drugs, however, that love high can make us do crazy things. You all have a friend who impulsively flew off to Vegas to marry a woman he barely knew because he was under the influence of love.

When we are in lust, or in the process of falling in love, we tend to overlook so many negative things about that person because so much feels right. We actively throw away any bad data that could ruin our high. We ignore what’s right in front of us.

If you’ve made poor choices because you’ve let a love high influence you, you're not alone. You already know that relationships entered into hastily, based upon the love high, never last. They can’t. Once you come down from that high, you’ll have to scale the Mt. Everest of data that you threw out. And trust me, it’s steep.

Whether you're in love right now or you're out there looking to answer the age-old question “is she the one?” the most important thing you need to know is yourself. The best way to figure out if someone is "the one" is to sort through the women who are clearly not right for you.

Is she the one?   

In order to get a sense of what your needs are, ask yourself these three critical questions:

1. What are the five qualities or attributes in a woman that are really necessary?

Be honest with yourself. What are your needs? Do you need to be around somebody who is affectionate? Smart? How much sex is important to you? Everybody's list is going to be different.

2. What are your long-term goals for the relationship?

Do you want a sexual partner only? Are you looking for a wife? Do you even want to get married? Do you want children?

3. What are your deal breakers?

What are the qualities in a woman that are nonnegotiable? Your past relationships are a fantastic blueprint and can give you great information about what did not work. Did you guys disagree over religion? Disagree about the desire for children?   

Know what you want   

Once you make your three lists, you will have a much better sense of what you need in a relationship, and whether that love high you're feeling is real or based primarily on lust. We men often make mistakes entering into relationships because we are not aware of our needs. We tend to get caught up in the moment and to overlook the things that are most important to us.

 

Check your list

So the next time you are with somebody and you start to wonder if she is the one, check your list! Make sure that the person possesses the qualities you're seeking in a partner. If you're missing a core ingredient, the relationship will never work out. If you consult your list, you won't find yourself in a relationship with a person who is like a best friend but with whom the sex is so bad you can’t take it anymore, and you won't be in a relationship where the sex is fantastic, but the woman isn’t emotionally stable and doesn’t make you feel comfortable.

Make your lists. Do some soul searching to know exactly what you need. If you're in a relationship, see if the woman you're seeing fulfills your criteria. You can only get what you desire if you're able to identify it.

Is She The One?

First Date Body-Language Mistakes

• What You Need To Know
• Don't look closed off by crossing your arms (even if it feels comfortable).
• Overdoing it on the head nod will make it seem like you're disinterested.
• Make the effort to lean toward her. It shows you're interested.

"Although you can't fake a connection with someone, you can definitely enhance it by trying to get on their wavelength. "

First dates are all about seeing whether or not you and the woman you’ve asked out are in sync. You might pay special attention to what you say (which is a good thing), to how you clean yourself up (big bonus) and to any sparks that fly over the dinner table. But don’t fall into the trap of letting your body language mess things up for you. Here are 10 first date body-language mistakes to keep out of her sight.

Pointing your feet away from her

When we like something, our bodies instinctively want to move closer to it. It happens subconsciously a lot of the time, but be aware of your feet. Are they pointing in her direction or at a hot girl at the bar? Be sure that they’re facing the woman you’re on a date with, as this is positive body language that shows her you’re interested.

Patting her during a hug

A hug at the end of the date is a great way to show her you want to touch her (and women want to be touched), but don’t pat her on the back. Although this could happen when you feel a bit nervous or you don’t want her to think you’re jumping her, the back pat gives her the idea that you are uncomfortable getting closer to her or that you just don’t want to make contact. Yes, it’s that bad. Always lean toward her when you reach in, and if you don’t want to come on too strong, make it a short hug.

Moving too quickly

You might not realize that your body often mirrors your internal emotional world. If you’re feeling a bit nervous about the first date, it could be reflected in your body language, such as make fast movements while talking or eating. This first date body-language mistake tells her you’re nervous and maybe even insecure. The impression you want to make is that you’re calm, collected and confident. So become more aware of your body and try to slow down your movements.

Nodding too much

If you nod a lot while your date is speaking, she’s going to think you’re not really listening or you just want her to wrap up what she’s rambling on about so that you can take the stage again. Basically, it tells her you’re not interested in what she has to say. Of course, nodding a little bit can be good because it shows that you agree with certain things she says, but keep it to a minimum.

Speaking out of sync

Mirroring each other on a first date creates the impression of being on the same wavelength. Pay attention not only to what your bodies are doing but also to how your speech patterns match. If she speaks really fast and you’re more mellow, for example, it throws you out of sync. Try to match her, as this will make your conversation flow. Although you can’t fake a connection with someone, you can definitely enhance it by trying to get on their wavelength. 

She might even think that you're just bored of her company and it's causing you to shred those napkins. "

Crossing your arms

Maybe crossing your arms is just a stance you feel comfortable in, but it will make your date feel that you are literally closing yourself off from her, which explains why this makes our list of first date body language mistakes. That’s never going to make her feel warm and fuzzy inside on a first date. Try to keep your arms extended or open as much as you can so that you show her you are willing to engage in conversation.

Invading her space

Sometimes instead of blocking yourself off from your date, you end up being a little too engaging. You might move too closely to her so that you’re breathing the same puff of air. Although you think she might have been flirting with you or sending you signals for you to move closer, it’s too soon. Plus, even if you’re charming and she’s showing interest, if you’re invading her personal space, you risk it being seen as an instant turnoff. 

Fiddling around

Fiddling with objects or not being able to stay still could be seen as displaying nervousness, a lack of confidence or disinterest. She might even think that you’re just bored of her company and it’s causing you to shred those napkins. Try to remain still and focus on your date. Immerse yourself in the moment and show genuine interest. Keep still and don’t fiddle, so that your confidence speaks for itself.

Intense eye contact

Eye contact is always a must when it comes to displaying good body language on a date, but don’t think that this means you should laser into her eyes. Can you say creepy? It will make her uncomfortable or cause her to feel like she’s being scrutinized by you. Let your eyes meet across the candlelight -- but not for longer than a few seconds so it’s not awkward. Do not turn her off with this first date body language mistake.

Touching her

Perhaps you’ve been laughing, enjoying some drinks and giving each other a lot of flirtatious looks, so it’s only natural to think that it’s OK to reach over and touch her. Don’t! You might be coming on a little too strongly for a first date, and she’ll likely assume that you’re only interested in her for sex. The only time it’s OK to touch her is if she touched you first, like if she has brushed your arm during a joke. In that case, she’s giving you the go-ahead and hoping you mirror her actions.

First Date Body-Language Mistakes

Is it wrong to acquire new friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship, that you have NO attraction to?

I had an interesting convo today that I wanted to ask you guys/gals how you felt on the subject.  Is is wrong to acquire new friends of the opposite sex that you have NO attraction to?  The lines have been laid, the boundaries are set, you have a friend that totally understands you have a man, or chick at home, and has no intentions on wreaking that, or ruining your new found friendship.

It seems to me that people can no longer be friends with the opposite sex, due to the increasing amount of emotionally hi-jacking partners that would rather have their partner either have and loose the few friends he/she currently has, rather than continue to grow socially and meet new people.

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Scenario One:

You have a male friend at work that you have NO attraction to; none what so ever, and you and him, maybe a few other co-workers or not, decide to grab a quick lunch....Is that considered wrong?  Or are you in some simplistic form of the word, cheating?  There is no out of work communication, maybe an exchange of phone numbers or emailing, Facebooking, or Twittering, you are just friends, that happen to share similar interest.

Are you cheating?

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Scenario Two:

Are you really going to tell me that while your dating your new (Boo) you can no longer, ever, hit the Confirm Friend button until you two either die or break up?

I personally think your outside your mind, if you think my social life should cease because of another persons insecurity.  But maybe I'm just looking at this from a guys perspective.

There is a poll on the right nav that you are free to vote on and let me know you thoughts.  Pass this along to your friends and see what they think.  I'm really curious to know your thoughts on the subject.

Is it wrong to acquire new friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship, that you have NO attraction to?

8 Signs She's Interested In You

Men hate it when women reject them. There's nothing worse than having your ego smashed to little pieces when the woman of your dreams turns you down for a date. You really thought she was interested, but somehow you must have misread her signals.

From the male point of view, women are often far too subtle and indirect -- or just plain confusing -- when revealing their romantic interest (unless you happen to be really good-looking and loaded with cash, in which case they call you ). And yes, women often send mixed messages because they're not sure of what's going on inside their own heads.

What most guys are looking for is a set of clear female signals that tell them when a woman is definitely warm for their form.

Does this exist? Well, here are a few signs that should tell you that she probably wants you to ask her out.

1- She's "in your face"

Suddenly, you'll become aware of her presence everywhere -- she "just happens" to show up wherever you hang out; you keep passing her in the hallway at work; she "accidentally" bumps into you; she maneuvers to stand close to you at a club.

What she's doing is trying to get you to notice her and giving you an opportunity to make the first move. The problem with this female strategy is that a lot of guys are completely oblivious to it and consequently throw away a lot of chances to hook up. Men are direct; women are indirect. So, next time a woman starts appearing regularly in your path, be aware that she's likely doing it on purpose.

2- She has all the right moves

A lot of people say that bodies can't lie. Nature has programmed humans with a complex set of non-verbal flirting signals that just flow freely when people are interested in someone. These range from the widening of the iris when looking at the object of desire to more overt displays such as smiling or touching.

Here are a few body-language cues to watch out for:

• She points in your direction with her leg, foot or shoulders.
• She leans toward you while talking.
• She plays with or tosses her hair.
• She fidgets with a piece of jewelry (like an earring) or strokes the stem of her glass.
• She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.
• She mirrors your body movements (for example, if you put your hand on the table, she quickly does the same).
• She smiling when you check her out.

If you become aware of a cluster of these signals, you can almost be sure that she's giving you the green light for romance.

3- She's never too busy

This is a cardinal rule in the dating game: If a woman is interested in going out with you, she will make herself available . This means that she will give you her work number or e-mail address, she will quickly answer or return your call and she will accept your invitation to get together -- and if she's busy on the day you specify, she will say something like, "Well, I can't this Saturday, but next Saturday would be fine, if that's OK."

You'll never hear from an interested woman things like, "I'm really busy right now," or "Let me check my schedule," or "I just got out of a bad relationship, so I'm all mixed up about men." Even if she's currently actively dating someone else, she will keep the lines of communication open with you for the possibility of future contact.

4- She's curious about you

A woman who's interested in you wants to know everything about you (so she can talk about you with her girlfriends). She will quiz you about your family, your background, and your tastes in such things as food, music and movies. Very often, what she's doing is trying to catalog your interests so that she can mimic your likes and dislikes in order to bond with you -- if you're crazy about hot air ballooning, suddenly, she is too.

5- She uses "The Probe" on you

"The Probe" is the female tool used for ascertaining a man's financial resources. The Probe seems like a series of casual questions, but behind it is a ruthless calculator that's ticking away. When a woman first meets a man that she might be interested in dating, she will quiz him on his job, where he lives and what kind of car he drives, all within the confines of a natural conversation. If you give the "right" answers, then the flirting signals will follow; but if you aren't up to her "standards," she's gone in a cloud of dust.

6- She "futures" you

An interested woman is wide open for any future plans with you. In fact, she will often say something like, "Oh... you like bowling, too? We should do that some time." When she's operating in this mode, make no mistake about it -- she wants you to ask her out.

7- She's on pins and needles

If she's really interested, she'll be as nervous as a cat around you, especially if you're clueless about reading her signals. Of course, she could be just a normally shy person, so watch how she interacts with others -- if she's only fidgety around you, then she's probably thinking romance.

8- She's jealous of other women you talk to

She has the green-eyed monster on her back. An interested woman will watch her competition like a hawk (and with talons bared). So, if you notice her steaming just because you're joking around with other women, you can be sure that she wants you to be more than just her friend. 

it's time to make your move

These are some of the most obvious signals women emit when they want you. But be on your toes -- spotting just one of these signs might not necessarily be enough to determine her interest (a lot of women are openly friendly to everyone).

However, if a lot of these signals are coming your way, it's a pretty safe bet that you could score a date this weekend.

8 Signs She's Interested In You

My new favorite couple - @ebenet

While Halle Berry enjoys the company of French actor Olivier Martinez, her ex-husband Eric Benet is planning his next wedding.

Eric, an alternative R&B singer, proposed to girlfriend of three years Manuaela Testolini in November, but they are just now announcing the news.

A rep for the 44-year-old singer tells UsMagazine.com: 'They are engaged and very happy.

Congrats on the engagement!

My new favorite couple - @ebenet

Insecurity gone too far? Kobe's wife is a nut! via @bossip

It’s obvious that Vanessa Bryant wears the pants in this household:

Kobe Bryant’s security was so tight, it even banned female cocktail waitresses from his VIP area at the Hennessy Black All-Star after-party Saturday night at Boulevard 3 in LA.
According to an insider, Bryant’s team also carried out two sweeps of the club in the days leading up to the event. “Kobe had a lot of male friends with him, and I’m pretty sure they would not have minded fe male cocktail servers,” said one spy. Instead, Bryant kept his at tention on wife Vanessa, who mixed his drinks for him at the table. A rep for Bryant didn’t get back to us.

SMH. That broad got Kobe shook for real!! No way in hell is she gonna let another “Colorado” situation pop off ever.

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Insecurity gone too far? Kobe's wife is a nut! via @bossip

The Cocky Guy’s Downfall

Better Man in brief ...

• Test your funny insults on female friends or your sister before using them to impress her.
• Never neglect the humor and become overly cocky. She'll think you're a jerk.
• Remember to always tailor your teasing. All women don't fall for the same approach.

"Winning a woman with cockiness should not neglect the funny aspect; otherwise all she’ll see is an arrogant jerk."

You think she’s hot, but instead of complimenting her, you throw in a light joke about what she’s wearing. You’re not afraid to use the Cocky & Funny strategy with women, because it usually works. That’s if you pay attention to what well-known dating coach David DeAngelo has to say on the topic. But if you go off on a tangent and misinterpret what being cocky is all about, it could totally backfire on you.

So here’s what you need to know before you throw her a few “funny” insults.

Cocky Becomes Insulting

Yes, her dress looks like it should be banned in certain countries, but ripping it to shreds with the scissors of your tongue will not be construed as charming to her ears. Look, there’s a difference between softly teasing her about something and taking the humor too far. Bear this in mind: She’ll take to you if you tease, but not if you degrade. To help you discern between the two, test your funny insults on your female friends or sister. If their jaws drop to the floor or their glares burn your eyes, then you shouldn’t risk getting a drink splashed in your face from the sexy woman at the bar.

Cocky Becomes Immature

As David DeAngelo has said, when using Cocky & Funny, you have to ensure that you pair an arrogant comment with humor. What you say has to be funny and make others laugh. Keep this rule in mind to prevent focusing too much on the arrogant side of things or becoming immature. You don’t want her to think you’ve lapsed back in time to grade school and you’re one minute away from pulling her hair or throwing her crayons on the floor. What’s a no-no is dishing her too many cocky comments, to the point where she’s looking awkward and you’re overdoing your approach. Winning a woman with cockiness should not neglect the funny aspect; otherwise all she’ll see is an arrogant jerk.

Cocky Becomes Boring

Sure, you’ve used the cocky approach on other women before, and you clinched success. But that doesn’t mean you should assume those exact words will work on the woman you’re currently eying. Making such an assumption can lead you to either believe you’ve got this one in the bag or view her as nothing more than a challenge. She’ll see your efforts as you trying to outdo yourself or impress her. In other words, she’s not going to feel that you’re trying to hit on her to have a conversation, but rather that you’re focused on winning. Prepare for her to turn her attention elsewhere.

This isn’t a comedy lineup with you as the starting act."

Cocky Becomes Mechanical

For any flirting tactic to be successful, you have to adapt it to the situation at hand. Forget going through strategies in your head, where you plan what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it. This isn’t a comedy lineup with you as the starting act. Doing this adds pressure and kills the spontaneity of flirting. Remember that when you approach a woman, she’ll not only be listening to what you say, but also scanning the energy behind the words. Awkward or strained energy will just make her wish she could pull you off the stage.

Cocky Is Misdirected

When you want to be Cocky & Funny, you might totally forget about your audience, which is a bad idea. Not all women are going to lap up your efforts, just like not all women like tall guys, so you have to tweak your strategy a little depending on who she is. Do this by observing her from afar for hints. Does she seem like an extremely shy girl or a party animal, for instance? Does she seem to be too serious, to the point where she probably wouldn’t “get” your humor? You have to suss her out a bit before you launch into your strategy.

Cocky Is Ill Timed

Then, of course, there’s always the chance that she just had a bad day and wants to be left alone to drown her sorrows in her martini. The last thing she wants is for you to march over and tell her you are sure she wants to spend the night with you. This could be irritating or make her feel like you’re needling her. So when going over to say "Hi," bear a thought for the fact that you don’t know where she’s at. Try to suss this out in conversation before immediately slam-dunking her into cocky banter.

Cocky Is Overdrawn

Ever heard women moan to each other that some guys just never know when to stop? Avoid being one of those guys by stopping and checking her reaction to what you’re saying. Though you don’t want to bore her with common chatter, you also don’t want to use cockiness to the point where she starts doubting that you’re really interested in pursuing something with her. Your cockiness and humor are useful to grab her attention, but underneath them you should not lose sight of the fact that you want to be building a real conversation and hopefully connecting.

The Cocky Guy’s Downfall

Tips for Dining With Your Lover at a Five-Star Restaurant

This is it, and if your guy had enough forethought to snag a reservation at a five-star restaurant, the LEAST you can do is make sure you don’t embarrass him by using the salad fork for the main course or using your cloth napkin as a bib.

If your not sure about which fork to choose, and when, always remember (work from the outside, in.)

That’s about the best advice for basic decorum at a high-class eatery.  But here’s a few more that will come in handy so you’ll look like just as refined as the Ivy League millionaire that’s sitting at the table right across from you.

• Put the napkin on your lap, NEVER use it as a bib, or worse, not at all.  The napkin is your friend, and be sure to use it often, dabbing gently at your mouth every few bites or so.
• Don’t slouch.  Sit up straight, just like your mom told you to.  Slouching makes you look smaller, less confident and insecure.  Get your posture right and you’ll work the room like the diva you are.
• Hold the salt and pepper!  Wait to season your food until you’ve taken a taste.
• Don’t reach for food, butter, oil or whatever–ask for it to be passed to you.
• Remember, the knife is for cutting, not for tasting!  Never, ever, put the knife in your mouth.
• If you drop your utensil, don’t stoop down to pick it up.  That’s what the waiters are for.  Don’t be shy about asking “Jeeves” for a new fork if it happens to slip out of your hands and onto the floor mid chew.
• If you’re drinking, don’t get smashed.  Make sure you have a glass of water and plenty of padding like bread or your entrée to help fight the urge to swing naked from the chandelier.  Topless.
• After you’re done with your meal, set the napkin next to your plate, not ON it.

Tips for Dining With Your Lover at a Five-Star Restaurant

Chair of Suggestion [NSFW]

The following is NSFW. Every once in a while here at Yanko Design we’re submitted a project that is so very adult in nature that we cannot post it in full lest our supporters all bail ship and call us design heretics. That said, the project contained in this post is called Adela [Erotic Chair]. It’s made of fiberglass, polyurethane, and vinyl plastic. The designer is Andres Amaya, and I’ll leave the many uses for the chair to you.

Designer: Andres Amaya  of Bala Studio

Chair of Suggestion [NSFW]

Are You Living Or Just Existing?

Life is for living, not just existing. As our days are filled with various, mundane obligations, it’s easy to forget to enjoy life. As crazy as it seems many of us don’t allow ourselves the opportunity to laugh as much as we should and partake in the simple things we enjoy doing; but when it’s all said and done, do you want to have gone through life coasting along fulfilling all major obligations, but forgetting to simply breathe and enjoy life?

From our jobs, that give us a headache at the mere thought of them, to our less than meaningful relationships, some of us have allowed mediocrity to be the overall theme of our lives. Sure you may have to take a pay cut to do what you really want; but at least you will be happier and more fulfilled. And so what if your relationships are filled with a variety of associates; but when it comes to healthy relationships, quantity always takes precedence over quality.

As you reflect over how you want to live your life, consider these things daily to ensure that you are living and not just existing. After all, none of us were put on earth simply to take up space.

Are You Living Or Just Existing?

What Women Look For In A Mate

• Better Man in brief ...
• You probably don't have much control over the biological selection criteria.
• Women are programmed to look for traits that imply virility.
• In addition, women frequently seek out intellectual and caring partners.

"Men primed to consider mating preferred to purchase goods that others would notice."

In the mating game, men and women most likely have access to a variety of conscious and unconscious strategies that they employ to secure both short-term and long-term partners. These strategies were developed over millions of years of evolution, and we’re still programmed to use them today. Although science is far from having all the answers to why we behave in the ways we do, hypotheses and theories to explain our desires abound. Here are a few of the physical and psychological traits that research suggests women are looking for in a man.

1- Bad boys

In 2009, a study by Peter Jonason of New Mexico State University and his colleagues found that men who rated higher on measures of narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy, or what is often referred to as the “dark triad” of traits, are likely to have more sexual partners than other men. David Schmitt, an author on this study, reported similar findings after he surveyed over 35,000 people across more than 50 cultures. While it is unclear exactly why women might be interested in these men, one possibility is that they represent a short-term mating strategy for cavewomen. For example, if the quality of a bad boy’s genetic material is perceived by a woman to be higher than that of her present partner, pursuing a secret sexual encounter with such a man may be appealing. Another option is that because extroversion and the ability to be charming tend to accompany the “dark triad,” a woman may be deceived into thinking her new lover plans to stick around when in fact he has no such intention.

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2- Material support

In 2007, Vladas Griskevicius of Arizona State University and his colleagues published a study in which they demonstrated that men in a romantic mind frame were more likely than men in a neutral mind frame to spend a fictional $5,000 on luxury items. The interesting point here was that these luxury items were conspicuous -- that is, men primed to consider mating preferred to purchase goods that others would notice. The interpretation of these findings is that if women have a biological bias toward men that can provide for them, in the modern world, one way for a man to signal his ability to provide is via conspicuous consumption.

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3- Great conversationalist

For women, relationship building happens with everyone all the time. To our ancestors, the ability to form social networks was vital to ensuring the survival of one’s self and children. Furthermore, the way women tend to solidify social ties is by discussing their daily lives and personal struggles. Men, on the other hand, are more hard-wired than women to problem solve and therefore often don’t understand women’s need to feel close through discussion of hardships. Should you be able to suppress your urge to fix her dilemmas, however, she’ll wind up feeling emotionally closer to you, which for many women translates to physical intimacy. If you’re not sure how to be a great conversationalist, don’t worry, because it basically involves being a good listener rather than doing much talking yourself.

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4- Feminine and masculine faces

Depending on where they are in their menstrual cycle, women show a preference for different types of male faces. During ovulation, it appears that women favor masculine male faces with such features as a robust jaw line. At other times of the month, however, women indicate they find more feminine male faces, such as those with softer features, more attractive. Evolutionary psychologists have interpreted this data to mean that while women may seek out males with a high degree of facial masculinity for short-term sexual prospects, they tend to form longer-lasting relationships with men that have softer facial features because these men may have been more likely in prehistoric times to hang around and help raise children.

Your natural smell is hugely important to women."

5- Systematizing abilities and extraversion

Men who are extroverted and good with manipulating tools or technology may have an evolutionary advantage, as their ancestors might have been better at mastering their environment. As a result of the higher social status and increased chances for survival that these abilities conferred back in the day, women are programmed to be drawn towards these traits in a man.
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6- Intelligence

Online daters, take note! A recent study by Monica Whitty and Tom Buchanan, published in 2010, examined the appeal of a screen name in both men and women when it comes to internet dating. While men were more likely to contact women with screen names that were suggestive of physical attractiveness or sex appeal, women went more for men whose handles were indicative of intellectual characteristics.

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7- Low anxiety

A man’s attachment style can have an effect on his ability to find and keep a mate. In a study on speed dating, men with an insecure or anxious attachment style were less successful in finding a match than men with secure attachment styles. In adults, researchers have discerned four attachment styles that are largely derived from an individual’s childhood experiences.

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8- Smell

Your natural smell is hugely important to women. Many studies have found that women not taking the pill are more attracted to the scent of men whose major histocompatibility complex (MHC) is extremely different from theirs. Essentially, if she likes the way you smell, it is nature’s way of telling her that the two of you will make a good genetic match.

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9- Face symmetry

While facial symmetry is a physical trait that both men and women find desirable in the opposite sex, a study by Randy Thornhill, Steven Gangestad and Randall Comer has reported that women are more likely to orgasm during sex with a man whose face is symmetric.

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Evolved to mate

Many of the mate selection factors listed here are beyond an individual’s control, pointing perhaps to the notion that we have less power over our desires than we tend to believe. At the same time, huge variations in individual preferences and the fact that we’re far from understanding the intricacies of human mating behavior mean that you should take heart; you’re probably doing more things right when it comes to attracting women than you'd think.

See you at the finish line!

What Women Look For In A Mate

Holding off on First-Date Sex:

• Better Man in brief ...
• Waiting to have sex creates anticipation -- imagine how good it will be.
• Do you think she's a slut? Good. Then don't treat her like one with first-date sex.
• Passing on the first date gives you time to do your homework (she might be crazy).

"It’s quite an anticlimax to get to know each other after you’ve already had sex."

She’s hot, you’re eager and there’s so much sexual tension, you are one drink away from suggesting you go back to your place. Stop! It actually could be better if you don’t see each other naked on the first date. No, really. Not only will she be flattered that you don’t see her as nothing but a piece of meat, but keeping your pants on could be good for you too. So if you’re interested in pursuing a relationship with her, it’s probably in your best interest to take that cold shower.

Here are some reasons first-date sex is best left undone.

Waiting creates anticipation

In our quick-fix society, anticipation has been shoved away in favor of immediate pleasure. But waiting a little longer before having sex in a romantic relationship is important because it gives you something to look forward to. If you enjoy the main prize of sex on a first date, you’re starting the process back to front. It’s quite an anticlimax to get to know each other after you’ve already had sex.

Waiting creates challenge

If you don’t let yourself get hot and heavy right away, you can create challenge. This means letting her do some work in chasing you, as well as moving slowly and then holding back a bit so that her interest is raised. It doesn’t take a genius to see how this strategy could be ruined by having sex too quickly. If you indulge in first-date sex, you’re showing her you’re very interested right off the bat, which makes it more difficult to be a bit distant afterward if you are keen on pursuing a real relationship. It could also make her think a relationship with you is a done deal (you know how some women still view sex as synonymous with coupledom).

Waiting shows you don’t think she’s a slut

If you’re quick to show her the way to your bedroom, she might think you view her as nothing but a cheap date. She’ll think you see her as someone who does this with all the men she meets. And chances are, she’ll be right. So hold off on sex for now. Although she’s attracted to you, ultimately she wants to know you respect her and are interested to know more about her than how she looks naked.

Waiting keeps you interested

Not only does anticipation go AWOL after you have sex on the first date, but chances are your interest will take a dive too. You might not even feel the need to get to know her once you’ve had sex, and so gone is the interest in trying to see if you’d work as a couple. If you press pause on sex for a while, you give yourself a chance to get to know her when lust is not clouding your vision. Then sex becomes the reward for keeping that interest burning.

It’s important to know her vibe before you take her to the next level, in order to avoid bad sex complications."

Waiting shows you’re a gentleman

Chivalry in the form of throwing your jacket over puddles to prevent your lady from getting her shoes wet may have left the dating scene long ago, but avoiding first-date sex is right up there with the greats. Suggesting sex after knowing her a few hours makes her feel you’re only after one thing, you don’t respect her or you’re the Don Juan of the town. Talk about a turnoff if she’s keen on a relationship that lasts longer than one night.

Waiting gives you time to evaluate her

Since you’ve just met her, you don’t really know her other than some things about her life, interests and job. If you add carnal knowledge to the list too quickly, you miss out on other crucial info you should be spending sex time trying to discover. For instance, is she a crazy chick who is going to assume that you’re a full-fledged couple after you’ve had sex? Will she turn into a human version of Velcro the morning after? It’s important to know her vibe before you take her to the next level, in order to avoid bad sex complications.

good things come to those who wait

Sex is important in a relationship; there’s no doubt about it. But making a slow transition to sex will result in an even more mind-blowing experience when the full act does happen. By then you’ll know if you’re in sync with each other, you can suss out the chemistry, and sex can become something that cements your relationship even more. So if she’s a woman you’d like to call your girlfriend in the near future, wait sex out a little longer, buddy. It’ll pay off.

Holding off on First-Date Sex:

Do You & Your Lover Need to Follow Each Other Online?

Via. Madam Noire

Social media networks allow us not only to keep in touch with old friends and meet new folks whom we might not otherwise encounter offline, but it gives us the opportunity to remain in constant contact with boyfriends and girlfriends…for better or worse. While it may be fun to check out your sweetie’s Facebook pictures or Tweet inside jokes to them throughout the day, there is also the temptation to monitor their online interactions with other women, or to find other information to obsess over (perhaps needlessly). Here are a few tips to consider if you want to ‘follow’ your honey online.

1) Follow…Don’t Cyber Stalk: E-red flags should be addressed with caution and common sense, just as offline ones. However, if you are watching your boo’s every Internet move (i.e. searching their name on Twitter and following every young lady with whom they interact), not only might you find trouble where there is none, your honey probably won’t be very pleased when hit with an accusation about their behavior. It’s one thing to ask about the girl who wrote “Hope to see you this weekend!” on his Facebook wall or to remark that his ex’s “I miss you” tweet was a little surprising and, fine, disrespectful, but it’s another to say “who is @sugarpie47 and why did she direct message you on Twitter, cause I peeped that when I was going through your phone.”

2) Set Boundaries: There are people who flirt in cyberspace all day long with no intention of taking that energy offline. If you are uncomfortable with your man hitting on random girls via Twitter or posting provocative Facebook statuses, let him know.  If he pushes back, it doesn’t automatically mean he’s doing some real dirt, but you two will have to discuss this and figure out if it’s something you can negotiate or the sort of behavior that you aren’t willing to deal with. If you trust him enough to allow it, but would rather not see it, then you should perhaps ‘unfollow’ his online actions. If you aren’t okay with it at all, then you need to make that plain and proceed accordingly.

If you or your partner has a blog, you may also need to discuss what you are both okay with in terms of discussing the relationship on your site. Some people don’t mind having their entire romance played out for an audience, while others bristle at even being mentioned as “my lover.”  Some folks are extremely private and the idea of using a blog or Facebook to announce their relationship status is simply horrifying to them. Documenting your own life online is fine, but you have to respect your mate’s wishes to be left out.

3) Don’t Be THAT Couple: Tagging a few couples pics and sending some gushy Tweets every now and again is one thing. Using social media as a public diary/scrapbook/chat room to detail every single up and down of your relationship is another. If you are blogging about the romance, then fine…just please be reasonable about what how much you reveal. But there’s nothing like going on Facebook and finding out that one of your friends got cheated on, because she has “WILL DA REAL MEN STAND UP AND STOP BEING UNFAITHFUL TO DA LADIES WHO LUV DEM!” Please…don’t go out like that. And don’t take a picture of every single moment of every single date you go on with captions like “Look at my baby ordering his Extra Value Meal! So sexxay!” Save some of those special moments for yourselves. If your tweets to one another look like they are better suited for a text message conversation…they probably are.

Remember: social media comes with an audience. Are you posting things people need and/or want to see?

"That's DOPE"

Do You & Your Lover Need to Follow Each Other Online?