When you chatted her up at the bar, she reciprocated all your flirts and seemed pretty keen to give you her number at the end of the night. A few days later you phoned her only to have a conversation with her voice mail and a later one of confusion with yourself because she never returned your call. What gives? Here are some possible reasons why she went MIA on you and why she didn't return your call.
Giving you her number was an easy exit -
“Exits are everywhere,” as the saying goes. For women, that exit is often found by being nice. It was much easier for her to play nice and give you her number instead of shaking her head and saying: “Sorry, I’m not interested.” We know it sounds unreal, but giving you her number was a get-out-of-the-awkward-situation-free card. If she told you she didn’t want to exchange digits, you might have asked why, which is a hotter seat for her to be placed in than simply handing it over. By smiling and calling out her number she didn’t have to risk that uncomfortable scenario. This way, she can rather just fob you off by never taking your calls.
Of course, you can’t write her off as leading you down the garden path just yet -- not returning your call could be part of her "playing hard to get" strategy. Wait it out for a few days to a week. If, by then, you still haven’t heard from her, it’s time to take your exit because you know why she didn't return your call.
She discovered something about you that put her off -
Women are complicated and they’re accustomed to changing their minds -- a lot. They’ll wax lyrical about a new pair of jeans only to return them the next day because they realized the jeans make their butts look big or not shapely enough. You have now become that pair of jeans. At first, she thought you were great, with your humor and ineffable sexiness. However, when she told her friends about you, they alerted her to a thing or two you had said that made her rethink her decision to answer your call.
If her friends expressed something to her that just didn’t "feel right" about how you mentioned your ex or didn’t mention her (we told you women are complicated), she surely took her friends' advice into account, which is one reason she didn't return your call. Another option is that she discovered something about you from a different source, such as your Facebook profile. On seeing those naked pictures of you running through a garden sprinkler at a bachelor party, she wasn’t rubbed the right way. In the future, it would do you good to set your profile to private. Just a thought…
There’s another guy on the scene -
It could be that she was only seeing him on a casual level when she traded numbers with you. Or she wasn’t committing to anything or anyone in particular and thought it wouldn’t hurt to widen the playing field a bit. However, now things have changed in her life. The other guy is now the guy she’s dating exclusively, and he’s the magician who made her vanish. Although it would be a much better scenario to challenge the guy head-on and win the lady in the end, the good thing is her disappearing act has nothing to do with your performance.
That fourth tequila made her talk the talk -
Ah, yes. You don’t have to jog your memory too hard to remember that alcohol -- and lots of it -- was the third companion that night. She got so drunk that she wasn’t thinking clearly and did something she wouldn’t ordinarily do -- like give her number to a guy she just met. When her phone rang during her hangover, she probably riled in embarrassment, wondering just what else she traded with you. Or she might not even remember the digit exchange! See? It’s just a safer bet for her not to answer your call.
Calling criteria -
Next time you chat up a gorgeous woman at the bar, offer to order her a soda after three flammable drinks. That way, she’ll be in the right frame of mind for the number trade, and your sly charm will later be rewarded with her name flashing on your cell phone.
"That's DOPE"
