Whether on the club scene or already involved in a simple yet sexually fulfilling fling, the Player will often encounter situations he’d be better off avoiding. While it’s true that an accomplished ladies' man is capable of adapting and is comfortable in relating to other people, some predicaments just aren’t worth the effort. I mean, why bother? For the most part, you never want to be in a position you can’t control; friends may accidentally place put you in one, and you should be vigilant in looking out for this. The Player has a reputation to uphold. He prides himself on having no enemies and certain situations can only result in problems. Look, the world of dating and sex is tricky enough without the added aggravation. Even when positioning is perfect, you still have to be on top of your game. If you want to keep things simple and your stress level as low as humanly possible, check the following list of the top 4 situations to avoid.
1- Meeting her girlfriends
At some point, she will want you to meet her friends. Now, when this happens while you’re first flirting at the club or bar, it’s usually a good idea to assent. Doing so shows her friends that you’re a decent, well-rounded guy who has only the best intentions, and their approval will further endear you to your selected target. But once you’ve started dating, “hanging out” with the girls suddenly becomes a bad idea. This is a subtle yet calculated move on the part of your new woman; it’s opening the door into her personal life and you’re guaranteed to hear various fishing questions. All women are experts at fishing, as most men are well aware. And this is only the first step; a few weeks after getting to know her friends, she’ll likely invite you to meet her parents, and that is most certainly out of the question. As usual, it’s about recognizing warning signs and red flags.
2- Weekend getaways
You obviously have no desire to turn your pleasant, no-strings-attached relationship into a giant commitment headache, so although a “relaxing weekend away” may sound awfully appealing on the surface, you have to realize what it entails. You have to understand that such an excursion is riddled with insinuations and implications on the part of the woman. Remember, it’s just the two of you, and there’s an absolute guarantee that you’ll be around each other 24/7. Some girls will spring for a getaway surprisingly early in a relationship, even when there’s little or no evidence of long-term intentions on your part. But regardless of when the suggestion comes, you really need to avoid it all costs. There’s no way out of the fact that, upon your return, she will attempt to move the peg up a notch to redefine the nature of your association. This is unavoidable -- but you could have opted not to go
3- Ego confrontations
Men can be both competitive and territorial, especially when women are involved. This is why menacing looks are prevalent on the nightlife scene. These expressions are not-so-subtle statements designed to reinforce a man’s dominance over the pack. This is due to a combination of fear and/or jealousy and a firm belief that females, regardless of age, intelligence, personality, or level of sophistication, are always drawn toward males who proactively assert their will over other potential mates. It’s quite instinctive, really. But you’re beyond that. You’re no brawler, and with your reputation and impressive resume, you needn’t prove anything to anyone. Your actions really do speak for themselves, and if you acknowledge the challenge, that means you’re insecure, and the results will never be satisfying. Getting tossed out on your ear or being led out in handcuffs is hardly attractive.
4- Letting her take control
It’s not about “control” on the part of the Player, per se; it’s more about simply being involved in the intended direction of a relationship. The supposedly sensitive thing to do these days is to let the woman choose the destination (and, in turn, the atmosphere) of a first date or encounter. But while it’s a bad idea to eliminate all possible input from the girl, you should most certainly dictate the proceedings early on. Giving her the reins while letting things progress is almost always a mistake. One of the worst situations to be in is when the lady suddenly feels misled or betrayed simply because you decided to go with your own ideas after following hers from the start. The key is to send the appropriate message early on. It’s not about dominating; it’s about guiding and is a proactive approach to avoiding a lose-lose situation.
YOU'LL BE BETTER OFF FOR IT
Experience is key for any would-be ladies' man. The more questionable situations he encounters, the better he’ll be able to deal with future challenges. That said, there are some scenarios that almost never yield good results and almost always cause problems. Like I said earlier, this whole thing is tricky enough -- we don’t need more obstacles.
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