The Player: Chitchat To Avoid.


If you’re a Player, you know that each pickup you make has its own story and that no two pickups are alike. Oftentimes for guys, they don’t know what to talk about when trying to engage in a successful pickup. Yes, a common problem among men is that there are certain conversation topics that they just shouldn’t bring up with women, no matter how alluring you may think they are. A man’s ego is fragile thing, and a bad conversation is the box it will get buried in without some careful forethought. We’ve already covered some conversation topics you should stray away from, but let’s take a peek at chitchat to avoid entirely.


Daily routine: Push paper for a living? How about hanging your laundry on a clothesline outside? Or are you the guy that has to shave twice a day? These are the kinds of topics that will instantly turn a woman’s favor against you. Daily routines are not epic adventures that she wants to hear about -- if it was the case then she’d have just as many stories, if not more.


The problem with daily routine is that it’s too easy to talk about. It’s the fallback matter that you would use as a last resort just to fill time during dinner to avoid awkward silences. Once the intelligent conversation (or lack thereof) reaches that level, your parachute is in danger of not deploying. Daily routine chatter is definitely on the list of chitchat to avoid. Find better things to talk about: scan your environment, think of a fascinating anecdote or just get her opinion on life issues.


Outlandish theories: It doesn’t matter if you believe that the U.S. government is behind terrorist attacks or if you think we’re doomed to a UFO invasion -- women don’t want to hear a guy who’s supposed to be a smooth Lothario talk like a senile old man. Sometimes the conversation veers toward philosophy, religion or politics -- and that’s a good thing. However, be prudent about what exactly you’re debating. Spouting off about unreasonable beliefs puts off the vibe that you’re going to be hard to deal with in the future, and will turn her off like a faucet.


The difficult part is knowing what defines outlandish theories. Alien and government conspiracies are obviously overt, but sometimes what’s normal to you may be threatening to her. The proper course of action is to be conscious of going off on tangents and keeping the variety of topics to within a polite range, one everyone can respect. And no -- no one is following you.


Past dates: The job interview is a good comparison for this conversation no-no: You don’t confess to your interviewer every meticulous detail about your previous employment, so why should you do the same with a new woman? This is a precarious zone to venture in because while she does want to know about your history (as any curious person would), there’s a fine line between honesty and bringing out the skeletons in your closet. Try and avoid this conversation all together, but if she persists in knowing, only give her the "gist" of your past dates, if anything at all. This isn’t a game of kiss and tell; some things should just not be mentioned, and your dating history is the type of chitchat to avoid.


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