A PrettyBOY's Blog: The Player: How To Bounce Back

A Player is many things to many people, including being an inspiration to bachelors and a scourge to old-fashioned romantics. However, one of the most enduring qualities of a successful Player is his ability to admit defeat and take rejection like a man. Knowing how to bounce back after a rejection or a bad date is just as important as the pickup itself. And while deep down we’re all human and emotions can run deep, there are remedies to ditch the self-pity and rebound back to your normal seductive self. Let’s find out how to bounce back as a Player and keep the hot streak going.

Learn from your mistakes

It’s a natural reaction for a recently rejected guy to ask where things went wrong. Often times, they were so ignorant of their own game that they completely didn’t see the red flags laid out in front of them.

Learn from your mistakes and go back to the basics. You have to remind yourself that women gives subtle clues to help (or hinder) your game. If she can’t make eye contact or dodges conversation, cut your losses before they happen. Make sure those green-light signals are present before proceeding any further. Even more so, don’t lick your wounds for too long -- otherwise you’re just going to lose your momentum and fall back into old habits.

Reevaluate your strategy

Once you’ve gone through your normal pickup routine a few times, your approach becomes clockwork. So, what happens when your hot streak comes to an end? If you want to know how to bounce back, it’s time to reevaluate your strategy.
Success often leads to complacency, and that applies to Players too. Meeting women isn’t a science; it’s an art you constantly must adapt to, so try polishing your techniques. You don’t have to revamp yourself from scratch, but make changes to things like your level of assertiveness, listening skills and personal style. It’s like taking your car in for a tune-up -- make the right adjustments and your approach will always run smoothly.

Hit up an old hookup

After suffering a disheartening rejection, it’s natural to feel frustrated. You’re not sure what went wrong, but your confidence is shaken and you need a quick fix. This is the perfect time to hit up an old hookup for that much-needed on-the-spot intimacy.

Think about it: Your old hookup hooked up with you because you successfully seduced her (and had some late-night fun doing it). She wouldn’t be a hookup if she didn’t want to do it all over again, so why not indulge? Restore your faith in your pickup skills by re-visiting success. Besides, there’s nothing better than having a 2 a.m. lifeline when the date ended with “let’s just be friends.”

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Talk to your female friends

Who better to give you post-rejection advice than your female friends, who will definitely help you learn how to bounce back? Women have a sixth sense for giving you the answers for why another female dumped you. Every time I’ve been caught in this bind the first thing I do is call up a few platonic girlfriends to get the breakdown of my performance. They can find all the little intricacies of your game that you didn’t even realize about yourself. Use this resource to your advantage if you have it; there’s nothing more obliging than learning the art of seduction straight from the source.

Go back to the wingman position

Don’t think of a rebuff as if it’s the end of the world; as I said earlier, knowing how to bounce back involves keeping momentum. Rejection is a fresh bruise on your ego, so there’s no time like the present to hop right back into another seduction scenario and fix what’s broken. You can do this by playing wingman for your buddies. This has a multitude of benefits, including avoiding the spotlight for once while learning a few pointers from another Player. It also relieves the pressure of having to seduce the mother hen. The wingman role is an important stepping-stone to rebuilding your confidence.

Try a different type of woman

Above all things, if you want to know how to bounce back, always come back to the fact that you’re a Player -- we don’t sweat the small stuff when it comes to women. You know that there are other types out there, so bounce back by dating different types of women. If you try and rebound with someone identical to the girl that couldn’t be, you’ll be primed to repeat another disaster.

Change things up. If you normally like the sporty types, try dating a woman with a more artsy personality. You might even discover an attraction you never knew you had. This is a chance to broaden your horizons, so don’t be afraid to change things up.

Here’s never just one

No guy is immune to a woman who just doesn’t find that sexual attraction, so there’s no point in dwelling over a lost cause. Besides, with over three billion women on this planet, there’s always going to be better and more interesting women, and knowing this will help you learn how to bounce back easily. Leave that “there can only be one” crap for late-night Highlander reruns.