Player-Hating Women......


Now that you’ve taken the easy route and learned about the Player-loving women, it’s time to up the ante and present you with the Player-hating women. These are the ladies who are averse to the style and traits a Player possesses, and you need to be able to recognize them. Once spotted, you can opt to pursue or avoid but if you decide to pursue, prepare for a challenge. These types of women are typically wary of men who sidle up with less-than-honorable intentions. Their radar constantly scans the immediate vicinity; they’re on high alert for the guy who may disrespect them in some way and they’re not about to simper and smile in the wake of your significant charm. In fact, they likely relish the opportunity to take you down a peg, so you’re not merely facing a fortress wall -- you’re also facing down the aggressive enemy within. Your job is to determine whether or not the possible payoff is worth the aggravation.

The man-hating feminist

Armed with a keen desire to elevate the position of women, some extreme feminists see the worst in all men. The man-hating feminist is, in many ways, the sworn enemy of the Player. It’s her belief that the concept of the “ladies' man” is little more than males behaving badly and taking advantage of women, and her attitude is a big obstacle. Essentially, it’s best if you maintain the relaxed, open front of a nice guy. Keep your chin up and simply answer her questions with a twinkle in your eye. Even if you're prepared to take her on, though, hitting up the man-hating feminist is a last-resort situation.

The super-ambitious career woman

Falling just shy of the “workaholic” label, she identifies herself with her work. She is proud of what she does and she expects others to recognize the fact that she won’t be slacking off for the sake of romance; she won’t be leaving the office early just to meet you for a drink. She has goals for herself and the company, and there simply isn’t any room for a man whose priorities are so very different. Well, your priorities aren’t that different, and her philosophy actually plays directly into your hands: Because she admittedly doesn’t have the time for romance, that also means she doesn’t have time for a long-term, committed relationship. But does that mean she can’t have fun? Does that mean she has to live without caring and tenderness? No matter how dedicated she is to her job, she can’t possibly deny the need for a little physical therapy every now and then.

The single mom

Any good Player is well aware of the pitfalls associated with the single mom, and there’s a good chance she blames a man for her current single status. So not only is she on the vigilant lookout for a man who won’t remind her of her former beau, but she probably also has some deep-seated biases against men. All she really wants is a father for her kid and a husband, but you should convince her that she has time to realize her dreams, and there’s nothing wrong with becoming intimate without monogamous hang-ups. It’s important to make one thing clear in your conversations with her, however: You are not against the idea of family and everlasting love and in reality, you believe it’s necessary for the successful continuation of civilization. You applaud those who can do it, but you’re simply not cut out for it.

The woman scorned

This is the woman who has just come off a bad breakup and can’t stand the sight of men. Regardless of what may have happened, it was most certainly the guy’s fault, and she’s currently convinced that all men are scum. This puts you in an especially bad position, primarily because she will identify you with the exact type of guy who might run her through the shredder again. In fact, you might be the recipient of a torrid outburst that, although it’s indirectly related to you, remains a little humiliating and will definitely be something you don't want to hear. First, you need to calm her down and convince her of the irrationality of her train of thought. Try, “I got dumped a few weeks ago but I don’t blame all women,” and then you can proceed to get her to laugh at herself. Once you’re at this point, the ball’s in your court.

Don't hate the player, hate the game

For every woman out there who gravitates towards the Player and is comfortable with his ethos, there’s a woman who has the opposite polarity. If you want to overcome the inherent difficulties involved with each Player-hating woman listed above, you’re going to need a healthy supply of reserves and alternate tactics. Then again, some women just aren’t worth the effort.
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