The word “Casanova” evolved from an Italian womanizer who had over a hundred one night stands. Casanova was a lady killer from Venice; he would wine and dine women, charm them, make them feel beautiful and irresistible, take them to bed, and … move on to the next woman the next day.
Casanovas are also known as womanizers, lotharios, tom cats, lady killers, seducers, predators and players. Many womanizers have a “line” for picking up women; they have a whole strategy from start to finish. After you learn how to recognize a womanizer, you'll see through his facade.
The personality traits of womanizers make them easy to recognize.
Womanizers are master manipulators. Though the words “Casanova”, “tom cat”, “womanizer”, “lothario” and “seducer” may seem flirty and flattering, the behavior of lady killers is far from innocent. The sooner you learn to recognize a womanizer, the better off you'll be.
How to Recognize a Womanizer
Womanizers are charming. They’re attentive, interested, curious – and they make women feel special. Womanizers have one goal: to get a woman into bed as quickly as possible and then move on to the next one. They’re seducers who are addicted to the "power" they feel when seducing women. This is one way to recognize a womanizer: they're addicted to the chase and challenge of love.
Womanizers are often in touch with women’s feelings, and can adeptly manipulate those feelings to their advantage. For instance, a womanizer will express empathy for a woman’s professional or personal problems, and let the woman vent her feelings. Once she feels comfortable and relaxed with the lady killer, he’ll make his move.
Womanizers are good at what they do.
How to Recognize a Womanizer: The Inner Workings of a Don Juan
Some psychologists believe womanizers or lotharios struggle with low self-esteem, and their sexual conquests make them feel better about themselves. It’s a temporary high, though. Womanizers may have unstable or nonexistent relationships with father figures – especially in early childhood – which makes them insecure about who they are. Knowing this will help you recognize a womanizer.
“Casanovas tend to exhibit some traits associated with psychopathy,” says Robert Hare, author of "Without Conscience" in Psychology Today (“The Lady Killer Files”, November December 2007). Womanizers may have to manipulate and deceive women to get what they want, and they may ignore guilty feelings – or they may not feel any guilt at all. This, too, will help you recognize a womanizer.
Womanizers tend to sleep with inappropriate partners, flirt with their friends’ wives, and have secrets about their romantic lives. Many lady killers are addicted to sleeping around with different women, but don’t find their sexual conquests fulfilling in the long term.
Recognizing a Womanizer Means Resisting a Womanizer
When you think you've met a Casanova, Don Juan or womaizer and you don't want to be another notch in his bed post, don't let yourself be manipulated into bed. A womanizer will give you the cold shoulder just as quickly as he'll wine and dine you. You need to decide what you want, and stand firm.
Womanizers probably aren't good candidates for long-term relationships. If you're looking for a healthy relationship, you need to not only recognize a womanizer -- you need to look past him.
1 comments:
what if he's your doctor and belongs to a group within the hospital and you have no choice but to have to KEEP the doctor. There are no other hospitals close by that offer the CANCER treatment I gt from this guy. He's good at his job but he's a womanizer to me at the same time. It's a VERY tough spot I am in.
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