She's Spoiled....How to survive!

You’ve seen them on television and you've read about them in magazines: spoiled women who are always demanding a little more -- and not just from the men in their lives, but from anyone who comes within a generous inch of them. Now you’ve found yourself dating a woman who unfortunately falls into this category (perhaps against your better judgment) -- your “guy” instinct went haywire the second she coyly passed you the comment that she can’t be seen downtown in your old, rusty four-door, or that the bracelet you bought her wasn’t the same number of karats she had in mind...

However, never fear -- you don’t have to turn into a free-spending sucker just to win this girl over. In fact, there are a few ways a guy can disarm her bratty behavior and convince her to enjoy the finer things in life (including your classy, independent self). If you’ve decided to take on the challenge of getting into a relationship with a spoiled chick, these tips will help you convert her to the good side

Establish yourself as the planner

Here’s some food for thought: What happens when you let the spoiled chick plan the evening? A simple evening out and a chance to impress the object of your affection becomes your worst nightmare. You’ll be dragged along on a leash trying to keep up with her, while she’s out painting the town red -- all on your dime. Sound like your type of date? We didn’t think so.

First things first, you have to establish that you’re taking control of this date. If you don’t take the reins from the get-go, it’s going to be a long night and she’s not going to let you step in and reverse your fortunes before the financial (and emotional) damage has been done. Organize the date well in advance and promise her a good time doing tried, tested and true activities that you know won’t drain your cash yet that will still offer a great time.

Make her wait

Spoiling is actually not a bad thing for a relationship -- it just has to be done in moderation and at the right time. Just like eating a tasty desert and getting a stomachache afterward, spoiling her upfront can be too much of a good thing and will only make her complacent with regard to your romantic endeavors.

Remember, you’re trying to break her out of that habit, and the best way for it to happen is to make sure that she appreciates that which you do give her, and these things will increase in magnitude the more the relationship blossoms. When you first start dating, don’t break the bank. Simple pleasures and cheap thrills are standard fare for getting to know each other. And if she’s worth it, she’ll buy into it. The key is to use time to your advantage, and spoiling her with meaningful gifts later down the line is far more romantic and healthy for the relationship in the long run.

Give her a non-material experience

Not everything costs money. A spoiled woman who enjoys material goods and getting her way is still a human at heart, meaning that that deep down, she is capable of appreciating the little things life has to offer -- that is, things that don’t have a price tag attached. Activities can include taking walks, conversing, getting exercise, reading books, watching movies or even just cuddling on the couch.

When you’re dating a woman who’s spoiled, try engaging in these subtle activities with her more frequently to disarm her spoiled behavior. When she’s busy doing things that don’t command the red-carpet treatment, her otherwise high-maintenance tendencies will start to break down. Of course, you will have to lavish her from time to time in order to keep her comfortable (and prove that you’re not a cheap-ass), but this is a great way to get her to enjoy your company while not breaking the bank.

Give her a humbling experience

In addition to providing her with non-material experiences, you can even go one step further and engage her in humbling ones. This actually might be more effective for the more stubborn types, because if she truly values spending time with you, she’ll get her hands a little dirty and join you in something that can help better those around her and her society in general.

Some great ideas include volunteering at a local homeless shelter for an evening, roughing it in the bush for the weekend, or even just babysitting your niece or nephew for the afternoon. The nice thing about these activities is that they provide a test: if she can trudge through these rewarding experiences, it’s worth it to take her out on the next date. There might be a few complaints along the way, but if she can sacrifice her own spoiled habits to make it happen, she’ll definitely be a keeper.

Don’t respond to her tantrums

Inevitably, there will be a few kinks along the way if you’re trying to break her out of her spoiled habits. People don’t change their personalities overnight, and spoiled chicks are no exception. Therefore, you’re going to have to be patient (as mentioned earlier), but more importantly, you don’t want to give in to or respond to her tantrums if she doesn’t get what she wants. The worst thing a guy can do is submit to whiny behavior. There are two consequences when this happens: 1) You’re just going to be fueling her unattractive “me-first” attitude with your wallet, and 2) You’ll be turning into that submissive sucker who can be manipulated like a gob of putty. When she reacts like this, don’t have any part of it. Stand up for yourself and tell her you’re not buying that attitude, but try to come to a compromise that works for the both of you. When you show that you’re standing your ground, but can still meet her in the middle, you’ll be the confident, suave guy who can handle any disastrous date, and she’ll appreciate you for it.

Get her into groupthink

Another effective way to remove her "spoiled" tag is to get her to join in on the fun. Group activities are a great way to neutralize her spoiled tendencies -- if she’s going to be dating you, she’s going to have to enjoy your friends as well. It’s in basic human nature to not want to be the "black swan" of the group; no one wants to be the social outcast, and that includes a spoiled love interest. So what are some good activities to help her overcome her spoiled habits? Take her camping with friends or engage in team sports. By becoming a member of the "team," she can learn to appreciate your friends and the activities you like, and she can also become a little more grounded by getting her feet "dirty."

Spoiled goods

When it comes to spoiled women, it’s not impossible to break them out of that mold. Be honest, stand your ground and always show her the finer things in life when you can. Remember, getting too much of a good thing is what spoiled her in the first place: be patient, resourceful and have self-respect, and she’ll come to appreciate you and your non-spoiled ways.

She's Spoiled....How to survive!