Aight I have a few meetings today, but I wanted to post this until I get back. Seeing as DV-Day is over, I'm sure most of you are starting to "Feel out" your new found ladies. Well, this is a short guide not to BLOW it! Plus some things to consider......Enjoy
Making the transition from “just dating” to exclusive relationship is like navigating a minefield. More specifically, it’s like navigating an invisible minefield, covered in concertina wire and swarming with poisonous cobras (also invisible). In other words, advancing through the courting phase is hard, and there are innumerable opportunities for the whole thing to blow up in your face. However, with a little effort, and some help from this AM Rule Refresher, you can sail through the courting phase with ease. Using The Guy’s Guide to Romance as your torch to light your path, you'll be able to determine if the woman you’re dating is really your dream girl and we’ll show you how to transition from casual dating to a committed relationship.
So, if you want to make your dating life a whole lot easier, take a look at the AM Rule Refresher: Sail Through The Courting Phase.
Make sure she’s girlfriend material
Before making the leap from promiscuity to exclusivity, you need to determine if the girl you’re seeing is really girlfriend material. As you might expect, the qualities that make a girl a good playmate or bedfellow are not necessarily the same qualities that make her a good girlfriend. So before making a commitment, ask yourself if you trust her? Can you tell her secrets? Do you feel comfortable when she goes out with the girls or socializes with the opposite sex? Does she get along with your friends and family? If you answered “yes” to all of those questions, you might be ready to sail through the courting phase.
Make sure you’re boyfriend material
Now, before you can sail through the courting phase, you need to be certain you’re up to the task too, Bucko. Don’t enter into a relationship because you think it’s going to be “easier” than trying to pickup every weekend. Women want their men to be unpredictable, which means you’re going to have to put some effort into being spontaneous. You have to be ready to listen to her complain about bad days at work and fights with her mom. You’re expected to notice when she gets a haircut or buys a new dress. If all of this sounds like way too much work, do not pass “GO” do not collect $200. You’re better suited to playing the field.
Red flags
Before entering into a committed relationship, make sure to look long and hard for red flags. Red flags are the little warning signs, the clues that tell you when something about a woman just isn’t right.
For example, if she has no life of her own, or if she suggests that finding a man and getting married is her primary goal in life, you could be dealing with the kind of woman who is going to be aggressively clingy and in constant need of attention. Does she pick fights in public or snoop around your apartment? Take heed, friend, because she could be crazy. And if she’s the kind of girl who can’t be ready to go anywhere in less than two hours, you’ve got a high-maintenance female on your hands. Back away slowly and do not make direct eye contact.
Pass her tests
Keep in mind that before you sail through the courting phase, you’re going to have to pass a battery of boyfriend tests. Keep in mind, she’s evaluating you too. For instance, when many women choose a boyfriend, they take a man’s potential as a husband and father into account. We know it seems like jumping the gun, but a lot of women aren’t going to waste their time if they can’t at least envision a future with you.
Don’t worry though; all you have to do to pass her “family test” is show her you’re not oblivious or hostile to familial relations. Just remember to ask her how her mother is doing once in a while or offer to help her sister move.
Similarly, she’s also going to evaluate how you treat strangers. Be aware that every time you go to a restaurant, she’s giving you “the waiter test.” If you’re rude to strangers and service people, it’s going to make her think twice about dating you.
Traps to avoid
As you begin a life of blissful monogamy, don’t assume sailing through the courting phase means racing through the courting phase. It’s about making a smooth transition, not a quick or sudden one. So don’t try to lock down your significant other by saying “I love you” prematurely.
Also, don’t start acting like an old married couple after a few months. Just because you spend every weekend together doesn’t mean you have to spend every weekend doing the same thing.
FINDING THE RIGHT ONE
If you find the right person, it’s easy to sail through the courting phase. It’s true that relationships take work, but it should never seem burdensome. When love starts to feel like a chore, it’s time to abandon ship. Good luck Guys and Gals.
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