The Player will always have to contend with stereotypes and snap judgments. Perhaps the most insidious and equally inaccurate belief is the idea that a ladies' man lives on the edge, that he knows nothing but bad habits and reprehensible behavior. This couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, the Player doesn’t drink himself into a stupor every weekend; he remains drug-free; he takes care of his health and general well-being, and although he’s not adverse to heavy partying and even dangerous hobbies, he always respects himself. The idea that one must break the law or become a chemically addled individual in order to be a Player is entirely illogical, anyway. Most women -- or, at least, the women the Player would normally associate with -- would not be interested in a disgusting, loudmouthed drunk. This is because of one immutable fact: Women watch how a man treats himself because it’s an indication of the treatment she will receive.
Exercise
You are no longer 18. The days of cramming down Big Macs and milkshakes should be far behind you for two obvious reasons: 1) At 18, you could get away with it, and; 2) You’re a grown-up now. Mature, intelligent individuals don’t waste their lives by living on fast food and frozen dinners; they expand their horizons by actively seeking new food experiences and keeping an eye on their caloric intake. This may sound like an ad for the latest “stay healthy” public service announcement, but honestly, remaining trim and slim is of the utmost importance for any active Player. It goes well beyond looking more attractive to women (although, of course, that’s a benefit); it’s about respecting yourself and showing the world that you have some discipline, motivation and ambition. It all comes together into one very appealing package in the eyes of most women, so make sure you actually use that gym membership.
Player payoff: nice physique
Moderate alcohol intake
It seems to be the cornerstone of any good party, and while you may not wish to abstain entirely, you should be fully aware of the pitfalls involved with overindulgence. We’re not in a high school health class here, but at the same time, while many men will simply roll their eyes and say, “I get it, I get it,” they’re often the first to fall. They start to rely on alcohol to become attractive to women; they begin to ply women with alcohol rather than rely on their own God-given gifts. And, finally, their entire “scene” revolves around the bar. Even worse is when alcohol makes a guy believe he’s a hit with the ladies -- it’s just plain embarrassing to see a wannabe Player who thinks he’s Bond because he’s drunk. Moderation is key, people. A cocktail for the ladies at 11 p.m., maybe a beer for you -- then sober up and find yourself in the throes of passion by 2 a.m. Get it right.
Player payoff: self-control
Active lifestyle
It’s an accepted fact that those who maintain an active lifestyle simply make better first impressions. The reason does involve your healthy physique, of course, but it also relates to everything that is associated with activity. You’re not sitting at home, are you? You’re out and about doing things; maybe you’re rock climbing today and taking a kickboxing class tomorrow. And beyond this, activity begets other activity in that you’re simply more open-minded and willing to try new things. All of this translates to one thing that is always crucial for any Player: an interesting aura. People want to know more about active individuals. They want to hear the stories they have because, obviously, they must have stories. By keeping your calendar full of active events and activities, you will immediately become more attractive and intriguing to the opposite sex, and this is a tried-and-true fact.
Player payoff: positive perception
No drugs
Humans are fickle, hedonistic creatures who, at times, have little in the way of effective willpower. We all have to admit this -- it’s a universal weakness. This is why we need to be all the more wary of temptations that, at the time they gallop attractively into our field of view, appear relatively harmless.
“What can one hit of X really do to me?”
“So I smoke pot a few times a week -- it doesn’t hurt me.”
“No, I’m not addicted to painkillers -- I stubbed my toe.”
There are those who will extol the fringe benefits of certain drugs and I’m here to tell you that absolutely none of it is worth the trouble. There is no drug that won’t eventually backfire and there’s an even more persuasive argument for some of you: Only sober highs are truly experienced. And besides, classy, respectable women aren’t interested in the adolescent egomania that participates in drug use. You are a mature, well-adjusted, confident man who needs no artificial boost in life.
“What can one hit of X really do to me?”
“So I smoke pot a few times a week -- it doesn’t hurt me.”
“No, I’m not addicted to painkillers -- I stubbed my toe.”
There are those who will extol the fringe benefits of certain drugs and I’m here to tell you that absolutely none of it is worth the trouble. There is no drug that won’t eventually backfire and there’s an even more persuasive argument for some of you: Only sober highs are truly experienced. And besides, classy, respectable women aren’t interested in the adolescent egomania that participates in drug use. You are a mature, well-adjusted, confident man who needs no artificial boost in life.
Player payoff: positive perception
Physical fitness
People who don’t normally exercise or workout are confused on this issue. One of the excuses they give for not getting involved is because it will “tire them out.” See, those who frequently get their heart rate up understand that such activity will only give you more energy. And what’s more important to a ladies' man playing the field? You don’t have to spend the majority of your free time jogging or playing racquetball, but you should certainly find a way to sweat at least several times per week. Again, it’s not so much about the cosmetic result; it’s how much better you feel. You’ll smile more, food will taste better and the added stamina in the bedroom is a 100% bonus for all interested parties. In general, the in-shape individual is simply happier and more fun to be around, both of which are essentials for the Player’s mood and attitude.
Player payoff: mental fitness
Sexual protection
Guys have been looking for a way around the condom since the moment of its introduction all those years ago. Sadly, if you’ve opted for the swinging bachelor lifestyle, the condom must remain your sidekick if you’re to remain erect -- and both meanings of “erect” apply. Being safe has never been more important and even discounting the more serious and potentially deadly STDs, no Player can be effective with genital warts. It just doesn’t work. Furthermore, while thewoman may do her damndest to convince you that she’s clean, that she’s on the pill (etc., etc., etc.), the bottom line is that if you just met her a few hours earlier, the condom still has to make an appearance. Outside of STDs, no statement can ruin a Player’s day as quickly as, “I’m pregnant,” so you’re just going to have to bite the bullet and face the facts.
Player payoff: cleanliness and health
CLEAN-LIVING LOVER
The idea that the out-of-control, immature frat kid in college is a “Player” is an irritation for the true ladies' men and pickup artists of the world. It not only takes practice and experience, it also demands that we treat ourselves appropriately; in addition to the obvious personal bonuses, it increases our overall appeal in countless ways. The Player lives clean and reaps the benefits.
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