Date Her Friend pt 2.

Exploit natural rivalries

It’s a fact of nature: Women are competitive. Even friends -- scratch that, especially friends -- can be jealous of one another. Women compete, particularly for men, and you can use this fact to your advantage when trying to date your ex’s friend. Dating a friend’s ex can be a real ego boost for a woman. You become a tangible sign of her greater desirability, intelligence and beauty.

You can exploit natural rivalries by using very specific types of compliments. Tell her things like “I’ve never met a girl like you before.” Even though you haven’t mentioned your ex by name, her friend’s mind will immediately go there. She’ll recognize that you’re making a comparison between her and your ex, and that she’s coming out on top. One word of caution about natural rivalries: For the same reason her friend will be attracted to you, your ex might start second-guessing the breakup. Be prepared for your ex to make a play for you if you start to date her friend. Do not give in; it’s not you she’s thinking about, it’s all about competing with her friend.

Prepare for the fallout

It’s only a matter of time before your ex finds out you’ve decided to date her friend. When she finds out, she’s probably going to flip out, especially since (if you’ve followed our advice) you’ve been dating her friend behind her back.

If possible, be the one to tell your ex the news (unless her friend volunteers). Don’t let your ex hear the news from someone else and try to avoid scenarios that will cause a scene. For example, don’t surprise your ex by showing up to a party with her friend on your arm. That kind of behavior will result in a three-way screaming match, or possibly even a full on hair-pulling, eye-scratching catfight. (We know it might sound cool, but it’s not.)

If you date her friend, there are going to be consequences. Your main objective is to keep those consequences from being so unpleasant that your ex’s friend will decide the relationship isn’t worth the stress. A little drama can bring you closer together. A lot of drama can kill any chance you have of dating her friend.

it might just be worth it

Date her friend and there will be trouble. It’s certainly not the easiest path to romantic fulfillment. However, if you follow these tips for dealing with your ex while seducing her friend, you’ll see that the task is far from impossible. Just remember, whatever you do, never suggest a threesome.

By Andrew Moore

Date Her Friend pt 2.