Subtle moves to make it to the promise land.

Convincing a woman to sleep with you can be a daunting task. You might be in the mood 24/7, but getting her there at the same time can sometimes be a challenge. Sometimes women need to be eased into it, and despite the extra effort you’ll have to make, the process can be fun. Touch can be both a subtle indication of desire and an obvious sign that you’re ready to get busy. A gradually increasing level of touch will help you end up at your desired destination: the bedroom.

So, here's how to touch you way into the bedroom.

Be touchy-feely

Your first step in touching your way to the bedroom is a series of innocent, seemingly accidental touches; brush up against her as you walk through a crowd; put your hand on her leg while you’re talking to emphasize a point; push her hair out of her eyes gently. There should be nothing lecherous about this first stage. Your touch should be interpreted as sweet and gentlemanly.

Pull her into you

As you earn gentleman brownie points and gain her trust, you can move on to a type of touch that implies greater intimacy. Touch your way into the bedroom by putting your arm around her or resting your hand on the small of her back. If she leans into your body without any self-consciousness, you’ve got a green light for the next level of touch.

Dance with her

In order to maximize this type of touch, it’s imperative that you know how to dance. If you’re hopeless in the rhythm department and look like a flailing octopus on the dance floor, this one isn’t going to work for you. Don’t be deluded about it; ask your friends for an honest, forthright opinion on your dancing skills. If they advise you not to go there, skip this idea and move on to the next step to touch your way into the bedroom.

However, if your moves are even halfway decent, taking your girl out for a night of dancing is a foolproof way to get her into bed once you get home. Dancing can be very sensual and women are often aroused by it.

While you’re on the dance floor, put your arms around her or rest your hands on her hips. Feel free to get close, but remember to avoid crossing that line between sensual and sexual. Humping on the dance floor is not cool. Save that for a more private situation later on. Any groping of private parts in public is a no-no, but on the dance floor it’s easy to become more physical with your touch.

Massage her

Giving her a massage is possibly the easiest, most reliable way to touch your way to the bedroom. Even a neck massage or a foot rub can work, but if you want the never-fail version, go with a full-body massage using warm oil. No woman can resist this kind of pampering. Feeling the touch of your hands all over her body will probably make her ready for more. In fact, you can seamlessly transition from the massage to the sex if you play your cards right. This means that the massage portion must last long enough for her to be fully relaxed and very grateful. You can’t just give her shoulders a few squeezes and then jump right in to the sex. However, when she’s already on a comfortable surface (ideally your bed), in a state of undress and her whole body is being stimulated by your touch, it shouldn’t be difficult to get her in the mood with touching.

teaching touch

Too many men are rough or clumsy when it comes to touching women. For the record, the best and most memorable lovers are the ones who have mastered the art of sensual touch. The effort you put into learning the right kind of touch for every situation will be worth it.

By Sarah Stefanson

Subtle moves to make it to the promise land.